Well, Donna, your friends have had to deal with pain but then they recouperated and are feeling much better. When I had my ostomy surgery, I was cut from right below the sternum all the way down, had 86 stitches, but yet felt so much better after the surgery. I've never had knee replacements but my aunt did...along with shoulder replacements. Once the surgery was over and she was healed, she didn't have much, if any, pain. She had the scars but not the pain and was back out on the golf course.
We don't have the scars but we do have the pain and the fatigue. Our pain doesn't ever leave us. We just have different levels of the pain but the pain is ALWAYS there. Our pain is more intense, too. Little things like banging your knee is so much more painful for us. My kids would playfully give me a swat and I swore I was going to have a bruise the next day because of the pain, but none appeared. This never-ending pain beats you down. AND, because we don't have scars to prove that we are really having this pain, we are judged, told how to live our lives, etc. That just adds more stress and pain for us.
People without fibro don't have that. They fix what is wrong with them...but we can't. So many of us are trying extraordinary means to try to get our health back but it usually is temporary. Your friends, though, had ways of getting much of their health back. Trust me, if they had the pain that you and I have, they wouldn't be mowing 8 acres.
Feel better. You are having a crummy day.
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