Yes, stress and weather play a BIG part with fibro. When the barometric pressure changes or we get a lot of rain or we are too hot or too cold...it all affects fibro.
Cydful, this is a really tough time for you. Teeneage years are difficult, at best, and when you don't have your husband to help, that makes it worse. My husband left nearly all the child rearing up to me so I started early. They had chore lists on the refrigerator when they were toddlers.
But, still, when they were teens, they would drag their feet. I just withheld allowances and extracurricular activities back until they started doing their chores. You mentioned in another post that your kids play sports. Well, they don't play sports until they finish their chores. If they say they will do it when they get home, they better, or they will miss their next practice. If they see you mean business, they will start towing the line.
My children were 9, 10, and 13 when I came down with fibro. Plus I was having horrible times with Crohn's disease and needing to run to the bathroom at least 25 times a day. (This had been going on for 9 years.) So, I really needed help. My husband did help me, and that was a blessing.
Has your husband been checked out for depression? My husband had that problem back when people didn't talk about it and you had to see a psychiatrist to get meds. He was tired a lot and didn't participate much in the family arena. That's why I practically raised my children by myself. It turned out that he had a chemical imbalance in his brain and it was hereditary and his depression got worse when I started having health problems with Crohn's disease. Once we knew what the problem was and he got help, he made a complete turnaround! He wasn't tired, he had more energy and wanted to do more things, etc. Then he started helping more, too. So, you might want to mention this or discuss this as a possiblity in your counseling sessions.
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