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   Posted 9/6/2009 7:08 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm nearing the end of a difficult course, and I've tried to do the best I can. Another grad of the course referred me for a job and I tested.  Well, there were 2 parts, and I failed one part, but did well on the other. The grad e-mailed me and absolutely CHEWED me out.  However, at the end, after all the hate speech, she did say she still believed I can do the job.
My confidence level has SUNK and I just feel tired and depressed.  I don't have to tell you how hard it is to find jobs these days, and there are even fewer options for those of us with health problems.  I had been feeling so good and positive the past several weeks, and things were looking up.  I think since the boss didn't seem to have a problem--she even told me she thought I could do another job that was open--the person who lashed on me was out of line.  Why do people do that??  I think if needed, (and was it??) a gentle correction would suffice.
So I'm wondering:  Could some (not all) of our fatigue, etc. come from sheer disappointment and a feeling of near hopelessness?  I feel a bit better about things today, but it still bugs me.  I've had numerous disappointments and losses in my life, and lost a very dear boyfriend years ago.  Though I'm happy now, I still feel that loss.  It's a feeling like something is clearly missing.  I believe we all have to pick ourselves up and go on the best we can, but I can't help but wonder if the pain of all those losses and disappointments can contribute to our bodily misery.
Thanks for hearing me out!!

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   Posted 9/6/2009 7:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Luvs, I believe all of this plays into fibro.  All of it causes stress and anxiety.  It has to, since it bothers us so much. 
It's hurtful when people lash out at you.  You go through so may emotions and all of that affects the fibro.  I have gone through that recently and my muscles turned to cement and the pain was horrible. 
Remember, that was that person's opinion and they most likely are wrong!  And, the second most important person...your boss...didn't have a problem with it.  Are you wondering who the number one important person is????  It's YOU!  You are doing your very best and are achieving and learning.  People crash on tests all of the time.  But sometimes it's just good old experience and a "go-get-em" attitude that gets you to the top!  So, pick up your confidence and drape yourself in it.  You will be just fine!
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   Posted 9/6/2009 8:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Luv, there is nothing that zaps my energy faster than something that brings me down, I can feel it go. I really try not to let anything or anybody get to me but of course in short of going into seclusion you can't always avoid it. Chalk it up to your friends ignorance about fibro and what you go through and let it go. If it will make you feel better tell her how much she hurt you. I'm the kind of person that needs to get stuff out to feel better if I can without starting a war, if it is going to start more problems I keep my mouth shut.
luv and hugs
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   Posted 9/7/2009 1:15 PM (GMT -7)   
I to have noticed stress sends me into a flare faster than anything else.
I think your friend was out of line, so many people lash out or just say things without thinking of the other person. and I'm sure unless you have Fibro or have a close family member or friend with it you are not aware of how stress affects us..

I work what we call Resolutions .. so I resolve issues all day ... some calls are extremely hard, Customers yelling at you . calling names even swearing at times. I like to think that these people are reacting this way about there catalog order , because there is really something else that's bothering them... I really had one customer call me back after he yelled and cursed at several of us... anyway he called back and explained what was going on in his life to make him react like he did... like his partner in business just died and at the same time he was going through a divorce. so ya.. I try to remember that its really something else and I'm just the one getting the blunt of it.. this guys was so sweet after this call.... But I learned something good that day ... Now mind you some are just ,, well you know the big B word LOL... but hey ..

So don't let her get you down... unless she is the one doing the hiring , really she had no place saying anything to you about your test .. HR ya know.
but ether way .. just keep your positive out look . and try not to let silly people like that get you down...

You are really doing great to still be in school. and looking for work with this darn D Fibro.. so be nice to your self. cause I'm sure you really have it going on... be proud ..

Take care. Fibro Huggles.
We must just let it go ... and I don't mean say we are letting it go and still think about it... we must really let it go .. ( I say that because I used to do just that )
Take care my dear and Good luck... :)
Don't let it get you down...
Spirit ~

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   Posted 9/7/2009 1:57 PM (GMT -7)   
You guys have been SO encouraging, and I so need that right now.  Bless you all!  :-)
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