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   Posted 10/7/2009 6:15 AM (GMT -7)   
As many of you might know I lost my 18 year old Dalmation, Vesta,  over Memorial Day and the journey from her loss has been hard.  Now our other dog, Dylan has metastatic Mast Cell cancer. (he is amost 11 and a Daddy's Boy).  He has had two stage two tumors removed but his body is full of lumps which may or may not be cancerous..only repeated biopsies can tell.  The only course of action is to continue to have them removed and tested, which is so traumatic for him.  We saw the vet yesterday to have the stitches removed from his last surgery...nothing much we can do except to feel his body every day and see how many have grown or feel hard...some are fatty tumors.  Don't know how long he can live with this...neither does the vet.
My kids want me to run out and get another dog RIGHT NOW...they have been talking about this since I lost Vesta.  I know I will at some point, but I keep thinking about how hard it is when they pass...which is selfish and there are so many rescues that need a good home.  Plus they are so much comfort to us when we are in pain...so why am I hesitating?  I am thinking they want me to replace Dylan before he is even  gone...seems so morose.
I know there is no good answer.  Just need to vent.  I have been off Lexapro for 6 days and the withdrawals are the worst thing I have ever felt.  I feel like I am being zapped with a stun gun every time I move my eyes or head...I understand this can go on for weeks.  So...my emotional state is not the best.
Thank you all for having a place to share the pain...wish we didn't have to.
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   Posted 10/7/2009 6:29 AM (GMT -7)   
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   Posted 10/7/2009 6:37 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry Donna (((HUGS))) You knew when it was time for Vesta to go and you will know when Dylan has had enough.
Your children mean well and they want to spare you from being alone after Dylan is gone. Believe me I know that horrible feeling of coming home to an empty house after losing a beloved pet. But you have to make this decision on your own in your own time.
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   Posted 10/7/2009 7:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Donna, I am so very sorry. It is extremely painful to lose a loved pet. You will know, in
your heart when you are ready to adopt a rescue.

Sending you a big gentle hug

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   Posted 10/7/2009 8:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Donna, I am so sorry about Dylan.  Enjoy this time with hm.  Your kids mean well but only you and your husband can decide what to do and when.  I've lost 5 dogs since I was married and each time it was horrible.  When my last Golden had to be euthanized I wasn't going to get another dog.  I waited 2 long years before I got my present little sweetie.  I know I someday I will lose her also, but I love her so much and she brings such joy to my husband and I.
Gentle big hugs to you!
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   Posted 10/7/2009 3:22 PM (GMT -7)   

Donna,  So sorry you are going thru this right now. We just lost our German Shepherd, (Faith) a month ago. We adopted her when she was 12 weeks old from a local shelter & we had her for 15 wonderful years.

My mom works with a shelter in Southern Illinois & I always here all the sad stories from each special one that she fosters until they find a forever home. Well.....last week she had a Standard Poodle(Nikki) whose owner had died. She had lost weight from missing her mommy & the son had taken her in, but just wasn't a dog person. We went down & got her and it is like she has been with us always. Such a sweety & so much love! She gets along great with our 6 yr. old Yorkie (Ellie).

I know when you are ready, you will find a new family member. I don't think we can ever replace our lost furbabies, but we can bring a new one into our hearts & home that needs our love & attention. There are so many poor animals out there waiting for a family & you will find the perfect one for when it's time.

I will keep Dylan in my prayers. It's so hard when they are sick, but you will know when it is time to say good-bye.

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   Posted 10/7/2009 3:40 PM (GMT -7)   
I just lost a rat from a tumor, it was very sad. I love pocket animals, I adopted a guiena pig that was terribly abused, we call her a turtle cause she lives in her igloo and moves it around depending on where she wants to go, like a turtle and it's shell. But I know how hard it is to lose a pet you love. It just isnt fair they cant live as long as us, and my kids dont take it very well when one of our pet dies, but I try to explain to them that it's part of life, but they dont like it, and I dont either.


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   Posted 10/7/2009 5:15 PM (GMT -7)   

Donna, I feel so badly that you are having so many things hit you at the same time. I think you are an amazing woman, dealing w/ all this pain and zapping to get off of this nasty medicine. You are strong, I know you will defeat it, I just hope this lessens for you very soon.

I know how hard it is to see your beloved puppy have these problems. If and when you and your dh decide to get another dog, that is the right time for the two of you. I'm sure the children mean well, but only you two know what feels right for you. You are a good and loving Mommy to your puppies, you did what was right for Vesta and you will continue to care for Dylan. There is a lot going on w/ your health and Dylan's, take care of that first. Everything else will come in time or not.

You are in my thoughts and prayers, dear friend.

God bless.  Alice.

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   Posted 10/7/2009 5:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry for all you're going through. Pets are such a comfort and they become a big part of our family so soon. I had to put to sleep our 15year old newfoundland mix four years ago, I think it was on of the factors I finally was dx with the fibro, was a very bad year. I had gotten a little lab mix a few months before Winnie had to go, it wasnt even thought about I just went out and got Hope from a shelter one Saturday. She's a lab mix. I think I will be making a decison like you'll be making with Dylan soon. My little 11 year old bishon is going through a similar thing. I also have a year old little yorkie named RU who is my "baby" I fear all the time that something will happen to him, he runs out of the house at times and I fear someday he won't be so lucky. You'll know when it's time to get another little one, it may just happen or you may plan, but it will be right when you decide! I still have our Winnie's ashes on my grandfather clock, I know crazy, but I feel she's looking down over us. Have you ever heard of the Rainbow Bridge? I cry whenever I read it! It's nice to think that they are waiting for us somewhere very peaceful! Good luck with everything.....sending you and Dylan lots of hugs and I know Vesta will take good care of him when it's his time too!
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   Posted 10/7/2009 7:24 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry you're going through this. I completely understand, we put our golden retriever (Reggie) to sleep a little over a year ago and I still sometimes cry about it. He was old and also had a tumor that was making it hard for him to function because it was on top of his spine and the size of a potato. It's hard to loose a pet, they're part of the family. We all had the same reservations about getting another dog, the sadness of the eventual loss. But in February, thanks to my boy friend at the time, his dog had a litter of lab mix puppies. We now own a wild and playfull little seven month old that we've named Sonic and it's so nice to have him around. He's certain that he's a lap dog even though he already weighs almost 50 pounds.

It's hard to watch a pet be sick, it's even harder to let them go, but at the same time there's the thought that they're no longer in pain, I know that's what helped my family when we had to let Reggie go. Thankfully there's so many more out there that we can love.
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   Posted 10/7/2009 7:34 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Donna,

I am sending good vibes and gentle hugs to you, my friend. I know how much you love your dogs. I remember well the pain you went through when you had to put Vesta down and now Dylan. I'm so sorry for all that you are going through. I went through a similar experience, having had to put down my cat K.C. last December, and then my dog Cassidy a few months later. It's so painful and yet we do realize it's the right thing to do, the most unselfish thing we can do for our pets that love us so unconditionally. I agree with the others about your kids, only trying to help you with your pain, I am certain of that. And, as the others have said, I think you will make the right decision, when it is right for you. I admire you so much, to have gone through the withdrawal of the Lexapro and now having to confront this horrible pain. I hope we can help, in some small way, to get you through this.

My thoughts and my heart are with you,


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   Posted 10/8/2009 5:36 AM (GMT -7)   

Thank you all so much for your kind words and encouragment.  I appreciate your support.  I am thinking that a new rescue may be on my Christmas list this year, with complete expectation that Dylan will still be with us.  I will have one of my children pick one out as I...

Oh my.  I don't seem to be able to walk through the rescue centers without wanting them all.  That is how we got Dylan.  We went to pick out a dog for my son, Dylan stuck his paw through the cage and latched on to my pant leg.  Even though we lived in a small condo at the time and had Vesta, I went home with him.  Absolutely no regrets.  He was given to us with parvo and we almost lost him the first week we had him...he is a miracle dog as no one expected him to live.

Another dog is in my future.  They are the best therapy ever.

Thank you again,



fibro, menieres disease, RLS, anxiety disorder, disc compression, scoliosis, spinal stenosis TMJ  Meds: Lexapro and valium

Post Edited (vestabula) : 10/8/2009 7:44:47 AM (GMT-6)

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