Can't take this boring life anymore.........

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   Posted 10/10/2009 2:08 PM (GMT -7)   
I lead the most boring life there ever was. I can't work because of my fibro.......too much pain and too much fatigue. My life consists of dishes, laundry and doctors appointments.

My husband was in a business where the partner stole money and fled the country, and left my hubby with the bills. I have no money for anything like hobbies etc....

Because of what happened - we had to move to a new state. I have one sort-of friend who leads a very busy life. We do attend church, and choir just started, but I had such a bad flare the other night, that I couldn't go. My kids live in another state.

I'm not looking for a pity-party. I'm looking for ideas. I need something to make my life worth while again. I used to work a 12hr shift before all this happened to me. I don't lay around in bed all day - but I do find myself in my chair too much. We live in the country and it scares me to go walking out here. I do stretches each day, so I keep moving.

Done with my rant.
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   Posted 10/10/2009 2:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Would reading work for you?

You can choose a theme through, and then gradually work your way through the selections provided by getting the books at your local library.

Nature study - start in your back yard, again, using books from the library :-).
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   Posted 10/10/2009 2:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Write. Even if it's just keeping a journal of your thoughts, you might surprise yourself and put your imagination to work. I highly recommend it. I got many story ideas from journaliing my memories, 'talking' about my family, jotting down my dreams. And journals don't care if you can spell or have good grammar. It is just for you.

I have spent a lot of years being very, very poor. I used to feel that entertainment was lost to me - couldn't go to movies, out for drinks or dinner, etc. I belong to to an online movie retailer, so for about $5 a month I get all the movies, films, documentaries I can handle, both thru the mail with free postage or watching online. I can even learn a foreign language. When I find a topic that really interests me I go online and research and read about it more. It brings the world to me for very little money or even investment of physical energy, but my mind feels fulfilled and overflowing. And the public library is a great source of entertainment. Many libraries offer free activities, talks and presentations in addition to free lending of books, videos/DVDs, and whatnot. I learned how to bead at a free 2hour workshop a few years ago at our library, and hope to learn to knit one of these days.

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   Posted 10/10/2009 2:41 PM (GMT -7)   

Myjoy, how about doing my passion....genealogy!  I've traced my family back to the early 1500's on the computer!  I do use and that costs $155 a year.  If you don't have the money for that, there are a few free sites that aren't as good but it could get you started until you are more financially stable.  If you are interested, email me and I'll send you some links.  It really is quite fascinating.  I study the history of the times that they lived, too.  I'm making books for my family so our history will be passed on.

Since you belong to a church and choir, you must meet people there.  Make plans to meet for lunch or invite someone to your home.  If the weather is nice, plan to meet a friend in a park for a picnic.  Sometimes, by making the initial move, you can meet some wonderful people and be lifelong friends.

Do you enjoy gardening?  You could do that or just do gardening from pots.  I want to try bonzai gardening but haven't had the time yet.  I am learning how to grow orchids and that is nice.  I learned how to transplant orchids, gave it a try, and it's growing!  I amazed myself!  LOL 

Have you tried your hand at drawing?  That just needs paper and charcoal pencils.  You might be surprised at what you can do.  You can get books from the library that teach you how to draw.  I used to do oil paintings for relatives for Christmas gifts.

How about calligraphy?  That's a unique talent and with that you can make your own cards.

Sewing is a good hobby.  You can try cross-stitching and make gifts this way.  It gives you something to do and saves money at the same time.

Just stop and think of what you like to do or what you would like to learn how to do.  I think you will be surprised at what you come up with!  Hope these ideas spur something inside you.  By the way, the suggestions I have given you cost very little money.


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   Posted 10/10/2009 3:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Myjoy, Like you I no longer work outside the home. Since 1995, my husband and I have lived in five differant states because of his work. Our families live in differant states.
Starting over is difficult but like an adventure. I have made some wonderful friends in
each state I have lived. I have met people through volunteer work and I was always
lucky to have great neighbors.

I love to garden, but I keep my flower garden small enough that I can maintain it. I
plant easy to care for annuals, like periwinkles, decorative shrubs and periannials. It is
a great place to relax.

Every place that I lived, I always got a library card. Reading has always been relaxing
to me. I find an author that I enjoy and will read everything they have written.

Writing poetry has always been a hobby for me. I enjoy making homemade cards
for family and friends.

I enjoy photography and take my camera to neighborhood events and surprise friends
with silly pics of them.

I enjoy sketching and watercolor, scrapbooking.

And last but not least I love coming to the forum!

Follow your heart and see where it leads you!

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   Posted 10/10/2009 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Joy!

You are certainly not ranting. You are sharing with friends who totally understand and respect you. It's difficult to be in your situation. Been in a similar one for a large chunk of my life and I becamse very creative at stretching a dollar for a couple of no kidding!

When I was at my lowest, income wise, is when I did the majority of my volunteering. I likely have more hours in volunteering than many people do total hours of work. I love it. Plus, it's hard to fire you. What sort of things interest you? There are so many places that need volunteer help that you can choose most anything you like. How about volunteering at your local library. Here you can choose your hours and how many you'd like to come help. Low on commitment there. Within many library are programs to help children with reading, homework like math and science. Do you enjoy visiting elderly? You can tutor in your home. OK, I can hear you now! What do I know that I can teach anyone??? A lot, that's what. You are reading this post aren't you? Well, there are adult and children who can't even do that much. And if you have more extended skills you might even earn a few bucks tutoring kids in math, etc.

Nursing homes are always needing someone to read to their residents who have sight problems or are just lonely because no one comes to visit. Did you ever see the movie Fried Green Tomatoes? She met the lady in a convalescent home, remember? Volunteer to baby sit a dog during the day. People actually pay to have dog sitters, just like baby sitters. They drop them of at "Doggy Camp" (alias your house) for the day. Might pick up a few dollars that way too if you like dogs.

OK, I'm out of ideas so we'll see if you like any ideas we've put on your plate so far. If not then we'll see about trying some others.

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   Posted 10/11/2009 12:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I like Robin's advice of following your heart. What have you always wanted to do but, for whatever reason, didn't? And talk to everyone you meet in church. Making new friends for me often leads to new hobbies. Keep us posted!

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   Posted 10/11/2009 8:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Myjoy, I won't pretend to know where your coming from, if I should only live long enough to do all that I would like to do. Like Sherrine I started genealogy almost 10 yrs ago but never seem to have the time to work on it anymore or maybe it is more of an energy thing than time. I used some free sites before I discovered Believe me you can really lose yourself in genealogy. It is the most fascinating hobby I have ever had.
Do you have a pet??? I have a 13 mo old bichon and almost 7 mo old shih tzu and they keep me busy plus they are great company. They also give me reason to get outside and walk.
You have been given many ideas on here so I hope you find something fulfilling to do.
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   Posted 10/11/2009 10:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm very grateful for all the ideas for me. It's so kind of everyone to take the time to help me out. I plan on reading everything over a few times, and picking out a couple things for me to start on. I'll fill you in later. Thanks again.
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