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   Posted 10/14/2009 7:57 AM (GMT -7)   
my husband has been out of work since August 10. He is not fired, but they haven't put him back on the schedule. We have done everything they asked, and are still waiting for a phone call. It has been so very stressful. Of course I have flared. I hurt like I was beat up. My shoulders and hips feel bruised, as do a lot of other muscles. Now I am dealing with skin problems. I am not sleeping well at night. And today the car ran hot. It is our only vehicle, and must stay running. I went to the mechanic, and the manifold is busted. It's going to take over $500 to fix! And we only have a little bit put up. We cashed in my insurance. My parents keep sending money they can't afford to send to help us. Sometimes I get so scared I can't breathe. My husband is so upset. He is getting migraines again, and not sleeping for 2 or 3 days at a time (he is out of his meds). He was sort of diagnosed with a side effect of severe sleep deprivation. He hurts all the time, and never ever gets enough sleep. We are both holding on with both hands.
We have 2 children. A friend thinks I should try to get food stamps. I haven't so far...he is still employed. Just not working in about 11 weeks!
So I have not been up to posting. Now I just needed to spill it all out to a friend (thanks friends).
We will keep on keeping on. Prayer and faith is all that keeps me from going crazy.

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   Posted 10/14/2009 8:32 AM (GMT -7)   

Oh sorry you are going through this.  Stress of any kind does a number on our bodies...but of course you know that.  I love it when companies keep people dangling on their toes and just do not 'lay off' or 'fire' so they don't have to pay unemployment benefits.  We have a friend who is a security guard and they haven't taken him off their books in two years yet have not offered him a job during that time either (he works mainly at sporting events).  No unemployment as they still  show him as an 'employee'.

I live in a county where 62% of the population is on some kind of assistance due to our two major employers moving out.  There are food banks here and WIC for well as food stamps.  I don't know where you live but maybe you could investigate your local programs for temporary help with food and your medications.  Maybe your hubbies doctor has samples of the drugs he needs???

I wish I could help you more.  Too many of us are suffering from this horrific economy bust.  The unemployment rate is three times what the government stats show, as people like your husband are still considered working!  You might go to the food stamp office and show them your last pay check stubs and see if they can help you.






fibro, menieres disease, RLS, anxiety disorder, disc compression, scoliosis, spinal stenosis TMJ  Meds: Lexapro and valium

Irish Babe
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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 10/14/2009 9:02 AM (GMT -7)   

Poodles, I am so sorry for the mess that is going on w/ your dh's job, that is just horrible. Then add all the stress on top of that for both of you. The company my dh works for is pulling a lot of 'crap' w/ its employees, also. They have been told to eliminate at least 400 jobs thru out the co, his place is trying to do that in their building alone. The stress is almost unbearable.

I agree w/ Donna, check out the food stamps, and any food banks in the area, like at your church. Hopefully, they can give you some assistance.

For all the noise that the economy is on the upswing, we certainly aren't seeing it here. My son is in construction, nothing is happening in construction and most other places are not hiring. He is young, strong, healthy (Thank you, God) and is a hard worker, still not getting anywhere.

I wish I had more to offer you, but pls know you and your family are in my prayers.

God bless.  Alice.


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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 10/14/2009 4:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Poodles, I'm in the same boat as you. It's the worries about daily things that give me the most stress and, as someone who doesn't generally worry, I find this really hard. My BF was laid off also in early August and his construction employer isn't paying unemployment benefits to him yet - it will be another few weeks, and in the meantime we are picking up food from the food bank. But in my city it is really hard to find any centralized information, so we had to really work to find it out. Calling churches direct made me feel like a beggar because the people who answered the office phone didn't know anything, and weren't very nice. I finally called the "community news" section of our local newspaper and asked if they could put me in touch with any local food support. Turns out that section publishes a list once every six weeks or so and were able to just email it to me. A few of my girlfriends are in the same boat and we call ourselves "Sisters of Ramen," seeing how many edible recipes we can come up with using ramen noodles. :) Good luck and hang in there.
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