DH got laid off! We work at the same place.....

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   Posted 10/15/2009 11:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I haven't been on here in quite a while it seems, but I REALLY need some support from ones that know how much stress is NOT our friend. 
My dh and I have been working at the same job for just shy of 4 yrs.  I got him this job, I've been here for 9yrs.  Anyways, he was laid off yesterday morning as soon as he walked in.  I was home because I am now taking wednesday off for my 'health' (started doing that a month ago).  I have been crying off and on since 7:30am yesterday.  Coming in to work this a.m. was very nerve racking.  I do not have my own office/ cubicle.  I sit out in the open.  My boss, of course, pulled me into his office this morning to "explain himself".  It didn't make me feel any better, I still have to figure out in my head how we will keep paying the rent (due today as a matter of fact), eat and be supportive to my dh.
This situation sucks awful!  I have always been the lucky one to pay all the bills.  My daughter use to live with us and pay a little rent to help out, but moved out about 3 months ago.  We ain't got **%# for savings.   Oh, yeah we only have 1 vehicle. 
He is 50yrs old and scared about looking for another job at his age.  He has always done general labor type work and is not really fit for that anymore to be honest.
I am scared!, plain and simple! cry cry cry cry cry
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   Posted 10/15/2009 12:00 PM (GMT -7)   
I understand completely. My husband has been off work (they sent him home, and haven't called him back) since August 10. He is our only source of income. He is 48, and has multiple aches and pains, and severe sleeping problems due to working shift work for 24 years. He is scared about looking for another job too. And his old job just keeps us hanging on....not unemployed, not laid off, just off! That means no unemployment check to help out.
I didn't post to bring you down! I just wanted you to know that I understand where you are coming from. Hang in there.

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   Posted 10/15/2009 12:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lori!

I've been in very similar situations many years ago with my ex. His problem was he would CHOOSE not to work because "he just couldn't work for someone else"...lol He also failed miserably at two businesses.

Anyway, your hubby does have many options he may not even know about. Obviously he needs to file for unemployment immediately! since there's a 1 week wait period from the day your file where you don't get any money. (I believe that's uniform in all states) Then he needs to start knocking on doors and not stop until he gets the help he needs/wants. I would start at your closest community college and the unemployment office...but the college will likely be more helpful. There are tons of retraining programs and often you will get job placement when you're done and sometimes before you finish. Because of his age and situation he is likely to get the education/training free. These folks are up to date on way more things than most unemployment offices. Don't mean to offend anyone but it's my experience where we live.

Also utilize any and all resources you have available... unemployment benefits, food stamps, food banks, your local Red Cross has connections to all kinds of help, local Good Will and Salvation Army sites. Also your local church. Keep calling and knocking on doors and never give up. Oh, your local power company will likely have a program to help you with your power bill., especially over the winter. Save any cash for things you don't get help with...like gas, clothing, non-food items like laundry soap, etc. Stay away from any and all "get rich quick" schemes! No payday loans or too-good-to-be-true deals. Cinch in the belt and make due with what you have.

I'm sure others will be by with more ideas. You will make it through even though it doesn't seem like it right now. If I think of other ideas I'll sure let you know. Also feel free to email me..just click on the envelope under my name over there <--- it's lit up and will open an email box to me.

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   Posted 10/15/2009 12:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Vickie and Lori I'm so sorry to read that. My great niece, who is a single mom, went to work last week and found her office packed up and was told she no longer had a job. I mean don't they have a little decency to give you a little warning these days that your going to be out of a job on a certain day so you can start looking instead of waiting for you to show up at work to find out.
Chutzie has some great ideas and I hope your families will take full advantage of everything you can get. And for those that can donate a little to help families I hope you do. Who knows when it will be us that needs help.
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   Posted 10/15/2009 1:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanx ladies! I really appreciate the advice Chutz. Wouldn't be a bad idea for him to get some retraining for something new.

He did file for unemployment yesterday. They told him it takes 10 days to process.
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   Posted 10/15/2009 2:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Binki, you have gotten great information here.  I just want to help you stop worrying about his age.  My husband had a high position with a company and the company sold to another one so he lost his job and he was nearly 50.  We had the same fears.  First I had him start using Just for Men hair coloring!  LOL  He didn't have a wrinkle but his hair was salt and pepper.  He used it and looked 15 years younger!  LOL  (Leave it to a woman to think of this!)
Also, you do not have to give your age on resumes.  At least that was true 14 years ago.  I think it's because of age discrimination suits.  So, when my husband redid his resume, he didn't list what years he graduated from high school or college.  He just said he graduated from such and such a school.
Bottom line?  He got another great job making even more than he made at the first company.  So, this might help a little.
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   Posted 10/15/2009 3:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Perhaps he could try working at WalMart. My Grandfather used to work there and the only reason they let him go was because he got so senile he couldn't remember which days he worked.
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