Child Support hearing and unable to work

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   Posted 12/11/2009 12:06 AM (GMT -7)   
I know this is obviously best asked to an atorrney but can't afford one. So, I thought that I might be able to get a few personal exprience stories here. I have a child who is living with her father. He is suing me for child support, attorney fees and retroactive child support (even though we agreed on a different situation 3 years ago). Any way, I have applied for disability, got turned down, appealed the decision and am waiting for that determination. How can I expect this may go down? When I can't work due to my long list of medical issues, etc. Especially if I wind up getting awarded disability. Do judges not care that you are disabled and still order the support anyway.....I have no income to pay child support.......and no $ to hire an attorney. And personal experience with this? Any help you can give would be great! Thanks friends.
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   Posted 12/11/2009 12:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Take whatever proof you have of your disability to court. In fact, give them to the judge about tow weeks before, or whatever is required.

Have your doctor write a letter for the judge. In addition, bring proof that you have applied for disability. You will have to pay something. It is the judges decision.

Good luck,


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   Posted 12/11/2009 7:27 AM (GMT -7)   
I think donnaeil is right. You should provide proof of your disability and the status of your disability claim. Your ex maybe asking for some outrageous amount, but don't worry the judge will look at your situation and award what he thinks you can pay. For example, after my divorce my ex took the kids for awhile because I was severely depressed at the time (because of him, ha). He was trying to get me to pay $900 a month, I was only making 18k/yr at the time. I had been paying him $200 a month and the judge only increased it to $227 month. So they do look at your financial situation. Good luck on your disability and court hearing.
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   Posted 12/11/2009 7:59 AM (GMT -7)   
They will deduct something from your disability when you reach a settlement at least they do in NY they don't seem to care what you are living on. It is so sad what they do to people these days....I've tried to get ahead on disability and I can't do it and I work part time. That's just to make ends meet

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   Posted 12/13/2009 2:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I am just making myself sick over this.......I am going to gather all of my documentation together to bring with me to court. Can't hurt to try and show my case anyway. I don't want any of you to think I am a "dead beat" mother......her father can more than provide for her on his income and I took a reduced child support for her older sibling for years to help offset the future child support for this child. I just have to be able to plead that case since I can't afford an attorney now.
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   Posted 12/13/2009 10:34 PM (GMT -7)   
It also depends on your state laws. I'm not familiar with disability but if you're not working and have no income I don't see how they can expect you to pay child support. That doesn't make any sense to me. Can you see if you have legal aid in your area for a lawyer or advice?

Good luck to you.
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