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   Posted 12/15/2009 12:23 AM (GMT -7)   
This time of year is party season. Maybe your only party is on Christmas day; many attend office sponsored parties; friends and family have seasonal get-togethers; often there are special parties and services at your church. Whatever kind of celebration you might attend, what is your party etiquette?

Do you arrive on time? early? or fashionably late?? Why?? If going to a friend's house do you always bring something even if the hostess said no need to? What do you bring? Food, a hostess gift? or just your appetite?... smhair What are your thoughts on this even if you rarely go to parties?

I'm one of those who is particular about manors and timeliness. Be on time! No late arrivals and only early if it's OK with the hostess. I can not, nor will not, go empty handed. Just not in me. If bringing food isn't an option then flowers are my next choice.

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   Posted 12/15/2009 4:56 AM (GMT -7)   
I don't much go to parties and get-togethers like I used to, so so far this holiday season I haven't attended any but Thanksgiving. My BF and I are going to a casual dinner at his brother's and wife's house, a small family gathering with a couple other non-family guests. I am a stickler about being on time, because I think that's the respectful thing to do especially if food is involved! Even though the hostess says don't bring anything I ALWAYS bring something, the intimacy of which depends on how well I know the person. For example, if I was attending a work dinner (which I am between Christmas and New Year's) I won't bring wine or anything personal, but would bring a small plant or seasonal flower for the hostess's home; nothing if it was held in public. On Christmas Eve, this lady who's hosting really does like to do it all herself because she has great catering skills and loves to share them to really pamper her guests, because she herself loves being pampered. Knowing that really helps me get just the right hostess gift for her, my biggest challenge. A bottle of interesting wine, a bottle of really good sake or balsamic vinegar from the Asian grocery, a couple of big bottles of fancy organic soda, really nice chocolates or truffles, decorative soaps in a little gift set, an unscented candle, a kitchen gadget she can use (I LOVE Online shopping!) or seasonal flowers like amaryllis for Christmas. I can pick one up right at the grocery store. I love giving gifts!

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   Posted 12/15/2009 8:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Topic Chutzie,,,
I am going to a Christmas party for work, though I offered to work that day because somebody has to.  But they want me there.  So I will be. 
I am bringing baked beans, and we had to bring a gift for others by name drawing.  The girl that I got picked, got fired, but she is going to be there anyway.  So I will go. 
I am not much for parties, but I am also not one to be late, I feel like everybody is looking at me if I am.  And as for fashionably late, I think people do that for attention because everybody notices.  My opinion only.  So I will probably be there early to help set up. 
They asked for my husband's baked beans, hope I can make them as well as he does. lol...
This party is mainly for the kids, so I don't think that there will be any drinking there, though I am tempted to get a 20 oz beer just to relax me, what do you think?  It is the holidays after all.
Hope that you are all having a painfree and energetic day.
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   Posted 12/15/2009 2:04 PM (GMT -7)   
i have my work party... this year we can't be late or we have to drive ourselves... we are going to the horse races and casino.. in another town. so the owners have rented a bus to take us to and from the event. we don't draw names at work.. we just each put in so much for our bosses.

I will be attending 2 christmas events with family one on xmas day with the inlaws and then on boxing day with family. its a hectic time of year for me as we do a lot of travelling in a short time.. its a 2 hour drive to the inlaws one way thank goodness we stay over at least one night with them.. but then we get up the next morning and leave for my family back home.. thank goodness we rotate xmas day with our families every year... i don't know how this year will be since i am in a huge flare right now.. but i am sure i will make it through

I always bring something even if they don't ask. even if it is a bottle of wine for the hosts or a small gift. And i am usually on time or a little early so i can help with whatever is needed..

hope you all have a painfree and wonderful holiday
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   Posted 12/15/2009 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   

I don't go to parties much anymore. Most of our things the past few yrs have been b/d parties for my mother. They are usually over my sister's house. I generally make the salads (potato, macaroni) and the desserts (cakes, pies, puddings). When my older sister and her DH had parties, they cooked up whatever the main menu was and I would make the desserts. I used to make deviled eggs, also.

I will probably be the one to do Christmas Eve, barring any health issues. I make everything, from A to Z, I've had ppl say, 'Oh, I'll bring ___________. And they come w/o so it is just easier to do it myself, instead of 1/2 a meal or no dessert. If they bring something, fine. If not, not a worry, I will have plenty.

I can't stand being late for anything, it just doesn't happen. I will be early to help out, if I'm not in the way, but I don't do late. W/ my family early isn't a prob, w/ my DH's family, they don't WANT the help. OK, fine!

God bless.  Alice.

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