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   Posted 1/21/2010 12:06 PM (GMT -7)   
This is going to come out as a huge whine.  My apologies, in advance.
Yesterday was the first day of the sememster, and I taught four classes.  I came home and slept for three hours.  Felt like I had been hit by a truck.  Currently, I live alone, since my partner and I live in seperate cities due to work.  Even after I slept last night, I still feel horribly achy, and confused.
I went to the Gastro today for my Colitis.  I had a terrible gastro for the past two years where I used to live... so I haven't reqly been examined for some time.  He, of course, wants me to get a colonoscopy.  No biggie, I expected that, but it does wear me out terribly.  However, since I do not have anyone at home, and no family and/friends in this new location (I just moved here about 6 months ago), I will need to take a cab to the hospital, have the procedure, and then stay at the hospital all day until they release me, and then I can take a cab home.  Due to the anesthesia, they do not allow people to either drive or be alone for six hours or so after the procedure.
ARRGGHH.  So, not only do I get to do the prep (AKA joy juice) alone, be on a liquid diet for 24 hours, but I also am to be stuck in the hospital for ten or so hours....
I am so very tired of having no support system in place.  I am pretty self-reliant, but there are times when it gets to be too Much.  Last fall, when I somehow or other caught MRSA (the moster super infection that does not respond to antibiotics), I had to try to find someone ANYONE to come to my house and feed my cat.  My partner was about tot ake the day off, drive down here (three and a half hours) feed the cat, and drive back.  I, of course, was in isolation and wouldn't be allowed to see anyone.
How do people manage?  It is getting harder and harder for me.... whine whine whine, pity.
Fibromyalgia DX 2005. Ulcerative Colitis, arthritis, TMJ. Family History of Fibro--2 out of 3 siblings diagnosed.

There are three kinds of people in the world: ones who see the glass as half-full, ones who see the glass as half-empty, and others who see a big crack in the side which is leaking all over their %$#@# foot.

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   Posted 1/21/2010 1:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Salve,
I am just writing because I am sorry you are in such a situation.  And sitting in the hospital for six hours can be very tiring.  But once it is over, it is over.  Is there any way that your partner can come down and help you?  Or is it too far of a drive?  Can you carry a laptop?  You could be on the forum in the hospital and that would take up some of the time.  We would all love to chat with you.
I hope that everything goes smoothly, I know about the joy juice as I had one this past spring.  The anesthesia didn't even knock me out as I watched the whole thing on the screen.
I hope that you are feeling well.
Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 1/21/2010 2:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Sending soft hugs to you. I do have my husband here, but no other family and not too many friends I can call on in a pinch (I tend to isolate myself with my illnesses). When my hubby is out of town, I worry, "What if something happens?" "Who will I call?" And that is just when he is out of town for a couple of weeks. It must get very emotionally tiring for you to hold down the fort yourself all of the time.

I hope everything goes well and you bounce back quickly. Maybe you can stock up on "comfort stuff" before you go, so it will be there waiting for you when you get home (magazines, movies, favorite snacks, etc.) to help you feel nurtured. Also, maybe that 6 hours (which I know is a long time) could provide you with some much needed rest.

You can always come here too. :) There is usually someone online to lend some support.

Hang in there. You are not alone.

Hugs - Austen
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   Posted 1/21/2010 4:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Myself, now I understand your name!  It is hard to be by yourself.  The saying, "No man is an island.  No man stands alone" is very true.  We can be independent but we still need others in our lives.
When my husband passed on suddenly, we were in the process of a move.  Our home had already sold so I continued on with the move.  I didn't know a soul except my mother and she was in intensive care after having a brainstem stroke.  Talk about being lonely!  I worked hard to meet people.  I joined groups in the area and also a church and now I have many people in my life that I'm thankful for. 
It's really not healthy to be by yourself so much so I do hope you can get out and meet people once you are feeling a little better.
I'm sorry you have to go through that hospital wait though.  I bought myself a Nintendo DS Lite and also a game called Clubhouse Games for the Nintendo.  There are 40 different games on that and I carry that in my purse.  It's small.  When I find that I have to wait, I pull that out and time flies!  There are so many games to choose from.  So, this might be a good idea.  I got mine at Walmart.  Also, if I know I'll have a long wait, I'll bring a good book along, too.  Lastly, you will be given a relaxant for the colonoscopy so you will probably get some much needed sleep!  The day just may go faster than you think.  I'll be praying for good test results and a day that flies by!
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God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.    2 Timothy 1:7

Myself 09
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   Posted 1/21/2010 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone. After a nap and some painkiller and a heat wrap, I feel a little better. I find that my schedule/work is getting harder to maintain now that I have more responsibilities at work. And now working on the fourth year apart makes me wish we could finally manage to live in the same place again. Maybe soon. He has agreed to try to move when I finally settle on staying put, which is only sensible since he is in his early fifties and cannot really be switching jobs as easily.

Yes, I do need more interaction opportunities. -sigh- I do a quiz night once a month with some other ppl from my job, which is fun. And soon I will be working on a production at work, but that interaction will be with students, mostly. We have a three-week schedule, where I travel one weekend, he the next, and then the third weekend off.

Well, I will prepare the house before I go to the hospital, I will take my laptop so I can get some work/play done. And since they moved my procedure to the first of the day... I will have a good amount of time to chill. It's just frustrating, and sometimes when I am achy I get morous.

Thanks again all!!
Fibromyalgia DX 2005. Ulcerative Colitis, arthritis, TMJ. Family History of Fibro--2 out of 3 siblings diagnosed.

There are three kinds of people in the world: ones who see the glass as half-full, ones who see the glass as half-empty, and others who see a big crack in the side which is leaking all over their %$#@# foot.

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