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   Posted 3/13/2010 11:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Sunday is our day to offer tips and helpful ideas to others who live with the challenges that we do too. So today let's share ideas on going out with friends and family, like going out to dinner or a movie. What tips and ideas can you share about making the trip easier for you and for the rest of us?

I try to make sure we're going at a time when life isn't overwhelming. I plan ahead and know that we'll be going so I can maybe rest up a bit earlier in the day. I also want to know where we're going in advance so I don't have to worry about waiting for an hour to get a table at a popular restaurant. We don't go out often and mostly go to a favorite place we love but I certainly don't want to get out to a fun supper and be miserable by the time we just sit down.

What ideas can you share?
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   Posted 3/14/2010 3:11 AM (GMT -7)   
I find that planning ahead doesn't work for me, because I never know if I am going to feel good enough and then ruin everybody elses plans. I have to do everything on the spur of the moment. Sorry if this doesn't help much.

Good topic Chutz. By the way, how is your new puppy? Is he getting big? I have a new one too. She is a pistol. Staying busy chasing her around.

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   Posted 3/14/2010 8:57 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm very lucky that my husband, family and friends are very aware of my changing
physical status. Thay are forever asking if I'm doing OK, do I need to rest.. They ask if
I need to be let out near the enterance. Would I be more comfortable sitting at a table or
booth? If plans are made in advance, I will get a call to see how I am feeling.

If going to a movie we tend to go to a weekend matinee. We leave early enough to get
a good seat, one where I don't have to climb too many stairs. We all know what our legs
feel like after sitting 2 hours and then trying to walk down stairs.

When going out to eat, we will go earlier to miss the crowds. I'm too tired if we eat late.
If we are going to a dinner party, I save my "spoons" for that. I like to have fun so I
rarely turn down invitations.

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   Posted 3/14/2010 9:08 AM (GMT -7)   
First of all, I always take a warm sweater with me.  It seems these restaurants are soooo cold...especially here in Florida.  Then, if I have a choice of hard chairs or padded booths, I'll take a booth.  Plus, it makes it easier to hear for me.  Third, I try to plan dinner out so we are there around 5 PM...before the crowds.  It not nearly as noisy and I can hear better that way, plus the service is far better because the waiter or waitress isn't "slammed".  Doing these things help to make it more relaxing. 
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   Posted 3/14/2010 10:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Well, I try to choose a good day, though that can be complicated. Going out to dinner is fun. You need to try to choose a place that is fun and has fairly comfortable seating. If you are going out to a movie after dinner, try to stretch out before sitting through the movie. And don't feel bad if you need to walk around for a few during the movie. Try to pick a movie that isn't too long. If you sit in a theater for too long, you won't be able to enjoy the movie. Well, I guess this is all the advice I can offer here. Hope it helps.
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   Posted 3/14/2010 11:43 AM (GMT -7)   
What a good question!

I too am blessed with amazing friends who really understand that there might be some special considerations made for me. Probably the biggest thing is that they don't feel "blown off" if I should have to cancel at the last minute when plans are made. They know I'll do everything in my power to go out with them, but it's not always possible.

When we do go out, we tend to go to places that are familiar to me, so I know that the seats are comfortable in restaurants, or there are places to sit and rest at parks or zoos, etc. If we're going out to a concert or something similar, my friends/family understand that I may get up and move during intermissions, etc.

One thing I always make sure I have when I'm out is one of those 8 hour heat patches...sometimes just having that soothing heat makes being out better.

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