I'm sorry you're in the place where it looks like a diagnosis has been made...it sorta feels like a point of no return, doesn't it? If Fibro is what your doctor(s) think you have, then yes...you are basically facing a lifelong condition. Like anything else, Fibro symptoms can come and go, or you could experience one set of symptoms today and then feel something completely different the next day.
The best thing you can do in my opinion is accept that life is likely going to be different than you previously imagined. That doesn't necessarily mean worse...just different. As you try out different treatments, such as pain medication, massage, heat, exercise, physio, etc. you will find the things that help you and start coming up with ways to make your life easier.
Start tracking the things that cause your pain to flair up. Once you have a better idea of those triggers, you can start to develop ways of managing. Maybe it means pacing yourself during the day, so you can go to a school play, or play outside with your kids. Maybe you get them to help you with laundry by putting items in the washing machine or dryer under your supervision. There are lots of ways to get your family to help out...the goal is to NOT feel guility about
what you can't do anymore. In fact, i think the overall goal in any chronic condition is to not feel guilty period. You didn't ask for this, and it's unfair, etc. but it is what it is and you have to find ways to cope.
Talk to your doctor about
medications that might help. Get some of the magic bags you can microwave for instant heat backs. Plan out breaks in your day. Ask for help when you need it Things will hopefully get easier over time, but it does take time.
We're always here to listen to rants and venting....and we all have shoulders to lean on. We're all there and we "get" it. Hang in there and someday, this will be you typing a message to someone newly diagnosed.
Conditions: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Pelvic Pain, FAI, Reynauds, IBS, Interstitial Cystitis, Surgical Adhesions, Ophthalmic Migraines, Severe Hot Flashes (Surgical Menopause and drug related), plus physically unable to vomit due to Nissen, and I have extremely tiny veins...a joy for blood work or IV's)
Surgeries: Appendix, Uterus, Nissen Fundoplication for GERD, Left Ovary, Gallbladder, Right Ovary, TVT
Medications: Oxycontin, Tramacet, Cymbalta, Flexeril, Clonidine plus Vitamin D and Multi-Vitamin daily