I'm sorry too for what you're going through. Stress can play a big role in flares. I was the main caregiver for both my parents in the last 5 years of their lives; not the heavy stuff - couldn't do that - but companion, go-between with the medical establishment, driver, power of attorney, you name it. My brother lives here but was almost never in the picture. Between June and Oct. of '08 they both passed and I moved my dad 3 times (we discovered in August that he probably had Lou Gehrig's Disease. Nobody in this town understood it or how to make him more comfortable. It was horrible.) I had my usual pain, but kept going, because I had no choice. There was not a spare minute to focus on how MY body felt. Now it's becoming clear to me what a toll it all took. I feel a decade older, almost 2 years later.
I tell this long story to vent!!! and also as a cautionary tale...I sure hope you have more help and support with your brother at this tragic time than I had, so that you can take better care of yourself. We really are here for you on this forum.
Diagnosed: Fibromyalgia, Meniere's, mild liver damage, keloid scar tissue (from burn) on back, arthritis, lumbar disc damage, IBS, migraine,
Meds: Nortriptyline, Clonazepam, Effexor, Darvocet as needed
multivitamins, l-lysine, probiotics, magnesium, calcium + vit. D, vit. C