How do you stay positive?

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   Posted 4/20/2010 1:50 PM (GMT -7)   
I've found myself grumbling, complaining, irritated, and frankly, angry lately - not just from the fibro but all of my ills combined. I really don't like staying in this place. I know it doesn't help me or anyone around me for me to be so negative and miserable.

How do you stay positive? What do you do on a daily basis to not let the grumblies get you? I really don't like who I am right now and would like some advice/input on how to find the silver lining.

Hugs to all - Austen
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   Posted 4/20/2010 2:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Austen, we all get down but you don't want to stay there.  I like myself.  That is the first step.  I try to help other people and try to do what God would want me to do.  I can't do any more than that.  So, like who you are. 
You are more than likely not liking these health issues you have.  I don't think anyone does but it's a fact of our lives.  Dwelling on that does bring you down and can consume you and make you totally miserable.  That makes things worse, doesn't it?!!! 
Now that you like yourself and you accept your life here on earth, find things that you enjoy doing that add pleasure to you and your loved ones.  Take each day at a time.  You know you can do one day.  Look forward to the next day and have hope you will feel better.  Austen, that's what you do.  One day at a time. 
Look at all the good, positive, wonderful things in your life and all around you.  When the negative thoughts come, don't accept them.  Find something positive to shove those thoughts out of your mind.  When I get really down, I go for walks.  I look at the wonder of this world and can clear my head.  I always feel better when I get back home.
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   Posted 4/20/2010 2:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Hate to read that you are having such a bad time. I think we all are struggling right now with pain, fatigue, etc. Spring is a beautiful month, but it brings misery to fibromites. Weather changes, pollen, etc. When I get really down, I think about all the people in Haiti. They have NOTHING!! Some are so sick and are not able to even get to someone with an aspirin. We are sitting in airconditioning houses, nice beds to sleep in and food to eat. When you try and imagine yourself over there, things don't seem quite so dim! Hope this helps!
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   Posted 4/20/2010 5:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Good question. Sometimes I find it easy to bounce back from being down, and other times it takes awhile. I'm not sure why, probably just an unknowable combination of factors. Luck?
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   Posted 4/20/2010 5:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Truly learn to live in the moment. Pay attention to what is going on around you. Don't dwell on the past and don't worry about the future. That helps keep the negative thinking at bay. Do think about the good things that you have in life, however simple they may be. They are worth everything in the world to you. Think about your family, others around you. Know that what you have is good. The little pleasures in life are what we need to focus on. I hope that you feel better soon.
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   Posted 4/20/2010 6:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Austen, so sorry you are having such a bad time, we all go through it at times but we have to pick ourselves up because it can drag you down for a long time if you let it. One thing i remind myself each day is that Fibro is not life threatening, it is painfull but we still have our lives to live, unlike those with cancer. tell yourself every day I WILL NOT LET THIS CONTROL MY LIFE. I may be in alot of pain but i do things to take my mind off it such as talk to friends or do things i am able to do that is fun, or help others. You can do this if you set your mind to it, you are stronger than you realize. You are not alone God and all of us are with you. It is a struggle but you can get your life back.

Hope you get to feeling better

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   Posted 4/22/2010 6:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for all of the encouragement. I seem to go in cycles. Hopefully, I can try to get myself back on a positive attitude course.

Hugs - Austen
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   Posted 4/22/2010 11:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Great topic!  I try to not dwell on the things I really can't do anymore (which that list keeps growing) and focus more on the things I can do.  I also try to keep positive people around me.  I really pick up on other people's negativity, but that's just me personally.  I also think the struggles we go through make people stronger in many ways too so that's always something I don't keep too far from my mind.  This fibro family is a huge help to me as well.  There is always positive energy here and support.  Soft hugs to all!

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   Posted 4/22/2010 11:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Sorry you are having a hard time right about now.  I look at it this way:  I had and beat hepatitis C, the treatment was awful!!  My rheumy told it to me like this----I have good news and I have a diagnosis.  The good news is that what you (I) have will not damage any organs and your diagnosis is fibro, unfortunately there is no cure.  And that was that.  Plus my hubby is a hypochondriac and does enough complaining for both of us LOL.  Better days are ahead.
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   Posted 4/25/2010 11:00 AM (GMT -7)   
I admit I am not always positive either but I find that reading fantasy and sci-fi helps me temporarily escape to another place.  Believe it or not, my faith has grown stronger.  I got involved in a loving church.  I attend a prayer group, lector and teach Sunday school.  Somehow I am given the strength to do these things.  Oh yeah, unfortunately I take some of it out on my spouse (but I am always sorry).  Having pets is a good thing to cheer anybody up.  They love you no matter what!!!

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   Posted 4/25/2010 11:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi AustenFan,

I do things that i enjoy when i feel like that : relax and whatch something funny, play with my animals, do scrapbooking, get a massage, get my hair done, nails done, tan, sleep, read a book. I just try to take my mind off any negative thoughts. Talking to a specialist at behavioural health, mental health also helps me alot to get on a right track.

Stay strong and think positive, fibro doesnt kill!
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