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   Posted 5/4/2010 9:55 PM (GMT -7)   
When you were young, did you have family chores? What were they and which was your least favorite? Were they divided up fairly? Or do you feel you were dumped on?

I was raised in a very sexist world...the 'Leave it to Beaver' Girls played with dolls and boys played with trains and models. I made sure my kids didn't get that treatment and when it came to chores they were non sexist. But, when the chores were doled out for me and my brother, I always got the dishes and he had to take out the trash. Most often he didn't do it and wasn't make to either. He was a stinker and troublemaker and gave mom and dad fits. But he rarely had to do any chores. On Saturday we cleaned house before anything else. I always had the bathroom and cleaned floors. I have no idea what my brother was supposed to do. I never did see him join in. He's nearly 3 years older than I am and to this day he's not And' he's retired! Hope he hires someone to clean those dishes since he's been single most of his life.

With my own kids I made a list of chores and each weekend we'd rotate who got to choose first. That way I wasn't making them do the chores, they were choosing the chore they'd prefer. So then it was NO complaining!

What chores did you have to do as a child and were they fair?
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   Posted 5/4/2010 10:23 PM (GMT -7)   
I am the oldest of 3 kids, to young parents. I got stuck with a lot of chores over the years. I never felt like my brother and sister did as much as I did, they always had excuses. We never had a set chores list or allowances or anything like that. I clearly remember always being the one to wash the dishes and clean up after the dogs and rabbits though.

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   Posted 5/5/2010 6:30 AM (GMT -7)   
I was raised by a single mom, which was unusual years ago.
My main job was to get my older brother up and off to school,
because mom was already at work.
I did anything and everything (some not very nice) to get him out of bed.
If he was late, I was in trouble. I think he still holds it against me.

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   Posted 5/5/2010 7:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Really the only chore I had to do as a kid was to pick up after myself. At my mom's house, my stepdad was (and still is) a serious control freak. Everything always had to be PERFECT! We would get grounded if the stuff underneath our beds (completely hidden due to bed skirts) wasn't organized. At my dad's house, we were asked to pitch in sometimes with the cleaning, but mainly we were just expected to pick up our own things. As I got older, at my dad's house, my big chore was the dishes. That's probably one of the reasons why I hate doing them so much. My sister had her first son at this time, so there were bottles and bowls and it seemed like no one wanted to rinse anything out.
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   Posted 5/5/2010 8:06 AM (GMT -7)   
I am the oldest of 7 girls (2 whole, 3 half and 1 step).
As a young child (while my parents were still together) the only chore I had was to clean our bedroom and the toy room.  While my parents were divorcing we were sent to live with my grandmother.  She was raised in the 1920's when child labor wasn't an issue.  So, she expected us to work from sun up to sun down, everyday!  She lived on a farm!  And, me being the oldest, I was expected to do MOST of the chores (dishes, vacuum, clean bathrooms and bedrooms, make everyone's bed, weed the garden, pick the garden, mow grass, walk to the Post Office (2 miles away) daily for the mail, feed, clean and exercise the dogs, bathe my sisters after dinner which I helped prepare, dress my sisters, brush their teeth, comb their hair, and anything else needing to be done) .  My sisters would get to sweep or wipe down the table and take ALOT of breaks.  If they weren't doing their chores or didn't do them correctly, it was my job to make sure they were done right.  No exceptions!  Once back with my mom chores didn't end for me - just everyone else!  I was supposed to know what needed to be done and - well - GET IT DONE!  Somedays she wouldn't say anything, other days, nothing was right.  It was a total crap shoot with her.
When I had children I gave them age appropriate chores.  However, I NEVER expected one to do more than the other or blame one for another not doing something correctly.  As they got older we rotated the chores so they wouldn't get bored.  But, like most teens, they scoffed at having to do chores because that was MOM's job!  Uh, NOT!  I think I was alot more fair with my children then my mom and grandmom were with me.  I wanted them to know it was a collective effort to maintain a home, not just one persons responsibility.

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   Posted 5/5/2010 7:24 PM (GMT -7)   
I am a middle child of 6 kids. A sibbling born after me, was deathly ill as an infant and into his wee years of life. My chore was to do the dishes growing up, but the whole house slacked due to the fight for life on my little brother. Anyhow, I took it upon myself to do all the cooking and cleaning when I was 11 years old. I did that until I was in high school, when I started working full time in a nursing home. By the time I graduated high school, I held four positions in the nursing home (dietary aid, hospitality aide, activities assistant director, and cna) as well as took the role of childcare on graveyard shift to my 6month old nephew at the time. I do not know how we did it, but my sister's job always worked out with mine in shift wise, I'd walk in, she'd hand me the baby and take off to her job. I was too busy to be a kid, and never really did anything for fun. I do not hold my family responsible, I felt that someone should pitch in when it was too much for my mom because of such a sickly sibling.
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