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   Posted 5/8/2010 10:12 PM (GMT -7)   
I just realized I had Sunday on Saturday. I've been that way for about 4 days since hubby took Friday off work and was at home helping me take care of 2 young grandkids for a long weekend. Oh wow, that was an experience. It's been a lot of years since I took care of a very busy 3 year old and an 8 month old baby for this long. But I felt volunteering for this job was the right thing to do.

Are you someone who volunteers everything and then wonders if you did the right thing.? Are you a person who can't say 'NO'? What was the last thing you volunteered for and then felt you should have your head examined for doing it?

For me this 3 days with toddlers might be it. It sure didn't do this body any favors but it was wonderful for my heart. I've never been able to say No until a few years ago. I always volunteered for things even though I didn't want to. Been this way ever since junior high school. But somewhere in the past 10 years or so I've been standing up and telling people No, that I have limitations. I have some help doing this but I know I needed to stop letting people walk over me like I used to. It's much better now.

Are you someone who can't say no? What did you volunteer to do that you either regretted or wondered if you were totally sane or not?

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   Posted 5/9/2010 1:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chutzie,

And Happy Mother's Day!!! Yes, I too use to be somebody that use to have a hard time saying NO. And now that I think about it, people shouldn't have put me in that position. People use to walk all over me and I let them.

But now I can say NO. Often I make sure that I don't get into a situation where I have to.

I think the hardest times I had recently was when I was working and people would want me to come in on a day off. Most of the time I didn't mind because I wanted the extra money. But then I got to the point where I didn't answer the phone. Thank God for caller ID. That is all I can say. Most of my friends wont put me on the spot anyway because they know that I have fibro. But years ago it was family that would ask all kinds of favors. They are good at that, aren't they?

But I think once you get fibro, it is a lot easier to say "NO".

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   Posted 5/9/2010 3:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Me and the guy I was with many years ago taking 9 kids to the zoo and Chuck E Cheese's in my Ford Escort GT hatchback. They
were ranging from 2-14 years. All my kids, nieces or nephews. It was a blast and the kids behaved, but I'm not sure I could do
it now. I settle for taking 3 of my grandkids to the State Fair every year.

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   Posted 5/9/2010 4:48 PM (GMT -7)   
I have learned to say no too!!! Over the years, I have thoroughly enjoyed volunteering,
getting involved in the communities I have lived, chairing committees on homeowner
associatons, serving on BOD. Volunteering at a food shelter, Special Olympics, schools,
booster clubs, a nursing home. I always felt that volunteering was very rewarding.

My energy level does not allow me to volunteer like I once did. If I am able to help out
a family member or neighbor I will, but if I don't think I can do it I'll say No and it is

Hugs, Robin
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