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   Posted 5/24/2010 10:31 PM (GMT -7)   
What do you prefer...spontaneity or stability? These two choices are on opposite ends of the spectrum for most people. Do you enjoy doing things when you first think of them? Or are you more comfortable looking into something before you make a move?

I'm totally the stable one...not that I'm "stable"...lol but I need stability in my life. Surprises are awful for me. It shocks my system and that only causes me more problems. I've had too many of those in my life to enjoy the uncertainty of spontaneity. My family knows this and some feel I'm a bore because of it but oh well...they're not me! smilewinkgrin

So are you someone who prefers a most stable style or do you like the fun and thrill of doing things 'right now'?
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   Posted 5/24/2010 10:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Stability, definitely! Surprises unnerve me, and I don't deal well with change at all. I feel the most secure when things remain the same.

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   Posted 5/25/2010 12:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Stability for me too.
I struggle with FM,Raynauds Syndrome,gastroparesis, IBS and depression. I trust in God with all things. Been a tough journey and it's not getting any easier but thanks to God and my family I am not alone.

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   Posted 5/25/2010 4:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Stability here too! Anything else just throws me off so badly!

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   Posted 5/25/2010 5:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Stabililty for sure.  I am a big planner. 

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   Posted 5/25/2010 5:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Hmmm, looks like I am the lonely surprise girl here! My hubby keeps everything stable for me so I don't have to worry about that as he gives that to me. I like surprises. For big things I do like to plan, but in my everyday life, I love surprises. I have 3 small kids, so my life is pretty much a huge surprise everyday. I never know what I am going to get from them!

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   Posted 5/25/2010 1:41 PM (GMT -7)   
The older I get, the more stability the better for me. Now, when I was younger, I was flying by the seat of my pants so much! I seem to get into deep do-do with being spontaneous sometimes :)
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   Posted 5/25/2010 7:35 AM (GMT -7)   
I would have to agree with the majority here. Maybe it's age, maybe it's fibro, but please (!) don't shock me! I just can't take it anymore. That's not to say that the occasional nice surprise isn't fun, but not if it involves much effort from me.
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   Posted 5/25/2010 7:57 AM (GMT -7)   
I used to like stability and know everything that was going to happen, but.......the pain and energy levels vary, so on days when I feel exceptionally good I like to just go with what I feel and do things on the spur of the moment. It has gotten to the point I don't like to make plans, as I have had to cancel too many times. Sometimes it is best if someone throws something out there and most of the time if I just do it I enjoy it.
If you think you can, you can. If you think you can't, you won't.
I may not do things like other people, but I get things done in my own way, in my own time.

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   Posted 5/25/2010 8:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I do enjoy both! Over the years, change is something I had to get used to because of
my hubby's job. We have lived in 5 states and 7 cities. Adventure still calls me and I do
still enjoy the element of surprise. Out of necessity I go with the flow.
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   Posted 5/25/2010 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Definitely stability. I'm an organizer and a planner with a "Mary Poppins" purse (contains everything that I might ever need). smilewinkgrin
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   Posted 5/25/2010 3:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Financial stability for sure.  (hubby likes to spend money)  new machines (for the business) and what not.  He counts the chickens befor the eggs have hatched quite often.
Denise from Pittsburgh, Pa
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