Hi, gerontologee. Sorry you don't feel good, but this is a great place to find and give support, and at least you found us early on! (It took me almost 20 years.) I was about your age when I was diagnosed, with 3 kids, married to a man with a stressful job and had 2 wonderful parents too, so there are a lot of parallels with your situation. I know what you mean about feeling pathetic, but you're not! This is not punishment for anything you did, it's just the luck of the draw.
By the way, what is Wegner's Granulomatosis?
Diagnosed: Fibromyalgia, possible Meniere's, elevated liver enzymes, skin grafting on back, arthritis, scoliosis, lumbar disc damage, sciatica, IBS, migraine headaches, tachycardia, skin cancer surgeries on face
Meds: Nortriptyline, Clonazepam, Darvocet as needed
Multivitamins, l-lysine, probiotics, magnesium, malic acid, calcium + vit. D, vit. C
Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.