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   Posted 7/9/2010 12:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Taking care of my somewhat special needs 8 year old takes so much out of me. all I want to do is sleep. I did manage to sleep for a bit earlier but he's so whiney even his older brother's don't want to help much with him. Does anyone else feel burnt out even before you start your day? there is no vehicle for us to get out either. d.h. has our only good vehicle to drive back and forth to work.
I've been diagnosed with anxiety and panic attacks.
My symptoms are......backache, severe headaches that Tylenol and Iboprofen won't touch, problems concentrating and problems remembering stuff, constipation, sleep disturbances, I tire easily, sometimes weakness,sometimes aches and pains,more heart palpitations lately too,  Im sure there is more but it's hard to think. Zyrtec for allergies and sometimes a nasal decongestant.
I take Paxil and sometimes Ativan for my anxiety. Over the counter I take a multivitamin, stool softener, a vitamin B supplement when I remember, AZO yeast when I remember. I think I've given up on Tylenol and Ibuprofen but have turned to Aleve, pain patches, pain creams, and my best friend my heating pad.

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   Posted 7/9/2010 3:06 PM (GMT -7)   
hi blessed just wanted you to know that I understand what you are going through. I had one son at 18 and then at 28 I had another, at 29 I had another, at 30 I had twins a boy and a girl but my boy was stillborn and then at 32 I had another son. Raising them was hard and my husband at the time was working 3 jobs to support us. When my youngest was 9 months I went back to work at a part-time job. None of my children are special needs but with so many of them yes it was very hard. I believe that my fibro started when I was very young so yes I know what it is like to be in pain and tired all the time. I can totally sympathize what you are going through but take one day at a time and you will find that there are always good days along with the bad.

Now that I am 50 I have one grandson and I take care of him every Saturday night till Sunday night. He will be 2 on the 22nd of this month and is quite the handful. I think my memory is failing because I dont remember it being this hard with my kids. I love him so much though that I try hard to just enjoy him as much as I can.

Hoping things look better tomorrow
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   Posted 7/9/2010 3:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Blessed,

Sending you strength and energy to get through your day. I wish it were that easy, but know that I am thinking of you.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 7/9/2010 5:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Blessed, I feel ya! I have 5 kids ages 7, 9, 11, 17 and 19, the older ones help out some (although not as much as I need them to at times) but it is exhausting! It never fails either that my kids can be gone playing with their friends at the pool all day or whatever but as soon as I lay down to take a much needed nap....they all show up needing something or other. I swear they know the minute my head hits the pillow. I am sure it is harder for you with a special needs child, my heart goes out to you. I know you must be so tired. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that you may get some much needed rest. Take care and we are here if you need to vent!
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   Posted 7/9/2010 8:37 PM (GMT -7)   
I have a special needs daughter. She is 19. I understand what it is like. Hard to get any kind of rest. My daughter goes to bed at 9:30 so I am able to most nights get to bed early, that is when I can sleep. Try to lay down on the couch when you can. Sorry it is so tough. Can you take dh to work so you can have the car, maybe that would help you.

Take care and rest when you can. Hope you feel better soon.
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   Posted 7/10/2010 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
My heart goes out to you. I remember the times when I was so tired I could barely move. I also have anxiety which often keeps me from sleeping. Just do what you can, when you can to take care of yourself.

I don't have a special needs child, so I can't speak from experience on that front, but as for how I handle the parenting aspect? The best I can? The house is not always as clean as I want it to be, and I have accepted that I have to let some things go because if I am to be able to function, I have to pick and choose what is most important. I don't want to have to spend all day in bed, so if that means that dinner gets made but the dishes aren't done until either my husband does them (which he often will) or the next day, or the laundry gets washed but not folded, so be it. If I have to use my energy to play with my kids instead of clean the house, I will do that. On days when I just can't move, I will watch Spongebob with my youngest or just sit in the same room and read a book just so I can be with them. I do what I have to do in order to be the best wife and Mom I can be in spite of my chronic pain and fatigue. And that is all I can do. That is all you can do. Forgive yourself your limitations and just do the best you can. :)
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   Posted 7/10/2010 12:14 PM (GMT -7)   
My 6 year old is special needs. He has ADHD, and I am his mother that he remembers. His dad and I were dating at the time, when his biological mother was found abusive, including sexual abusive towards this little angel of joy and she lost all parental rights. I have since broken up with the father, but I remained in tact of his life as I am the only mom the kid knows that doesn't hurt him in away way. So far my love and patience has been teaching him a better way. When I first got diagnosed and told I needed chemotherapy, I told him I had big owies in the inside and that mommy gets sick from medicine that doctor make owies go away with. He's insisted of taking dishes to sink for me, taking out trash, etc. My little helper. Maybe trying something on that lines to get your kid not whine as so much.
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