I don't blame you! I would be angry, too. It's too bad your sister isn't more sympathetic to all that you have on your plate. We can only do today what we can do today.
Take a deep breath and try to realize that even if you didn't have fibro, celiac's, your husband's problems, and all the rest, the final outcome of what happens with your mother is out of your hands. I probably took years off the end of my life trying to make everything better for my mom, then my dad, when they were dying (4 months apart.) In the end, I was so frazzled that I wasn't even thinking straight - I spent my dad's last night alone in the lounge of his nursing home (where I could still see him) instead of by his side. Why? He appeared to be unconscious, I was exhausted, my body hurt bad, and I had to lie down somewhere. It never even occurred to me to ask them to wheel a bed into his room. I also allowed my sister-in-law to
open his window because she was hot, even though my dad was chronically cold and his temp at the time was in the low 90s. (Grrrrr!!) I still wanted to fight for him, but I guess the constant pressure to do, do, do was suddenly off, and I just folded.
Almost 2 years later, I still have a hard time coming to terms with these memories. Sure, they knew I loved them, but if I had "put my own oxygen mask on first," I would have actually helped more. I really hope things work out for all of you and that you don't accept your sister's trying to make you feel guilty. Because you are doing a very tough job already, all the way around.
Fibromyalgia, possible Meniere's, elevated liver enzymes, skin grafting on back, arthritis, scoliosis, lumbar disc damage, sciatica, IBS, migraine headaches, tachycardia, skin cancer surgeries on face
Nortriptyline, Clonazepam, Darvocet as needed
Multivitamins, l-lysine, probiotics, magnesium, malic acid, calcium + vit. D, vit. C
This too shall pass....