I am kind of dreading it. It isn't that she is evil, so it could be worse, but she is extremely self centered. She needs to be constantly entertained, so it is very draining. She has fibro as well, but has plenty of energy to go and do everything, doesn't seem affected by it in the least. She gets a good nights sleep every night, I have chronic insomnia. She hates to cook, and would prefer that we eat out every meal so that she doesn't feel obligated to offer to help(and yes, she has actually said this to me out loud). Plus, eating out with her is a holy nightmare. She is very picky, this isn't cooked right, that's not right, this tastes funny, etc. We don't eat out much anyway, both because of budget constraints and the fact that I have to eat gluten free, and that limits where we can go, so it is easier to cook here because there is no risk of my getting sick. We've pre-warned her that we won't be eating out while she is here this time. It's just so different from when my parent's visit. When my parents come, the load is lightened because my mom and I cook together, clean together, etc. With my MIL, I know that it's just one extra person that I have to do for. It isn't that we don't love her, but it's exhausting. So while she is full of energy and always wants to be on the go, I on the other hand am in constant pain and it just saps my energy to begin with, so adding the stress of worrying about
entertaining her to all of it is making me feel exhausted already and she isn't even here yet. And I'm in the middle of a costochondritis flare up and my chest is killing me.
The last time she visited a couple of years ago, our son woke up crying in the middle of the night. Granted, he was 4, and had just had a nightmare, but she did hear him first because she was still awake and we were asleep. When we asked her the next day if she had heard him, she said " Yes. I was going to go see what was wrong, but then I decided it wasn't my problem so I didn't bother."
Thanks for listening to the rant. I know it isn't that big of a deal, and minor in comparison to a lot of the issues that others have going on.
Fibromyalgia, High BP, Migraines, anxiety, Non Celiac Gluten Intolerant
Current medications: Topamax, Maxalt, Lotrel, Wellbutrin