Tuesday Koffee Klatch time ~ serious topic today

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   Posted 8/30/2010 10:08 PM (GMT -7)   
For those who've been to the Koffee Klatch for long time, we always had a rule about not using the 'P' (Pain) word. But as we've evolved we have found that often we need to talk about it. So as promised, the 'P' word is not only allowed but will be the focus of our chat here some times.

Today is one of those days. This is not meant to be morbid or bring anyone down...but if it does please let me know by either posting in this thread or emailing me. And the question is...when your pain is about to push you over the edge, who do you turn to or what do you do to begin to regain control. Some people need another person to connect with to help regain control of that 'unbelievable' pain. Others have to be alone to concentrate or medicate on the pain to calm the body. And some folks may need to leave the house and do something to get your mind thinking of the rest of the world's existence. When your pain is more than you think you can ever handle, what do you do and/or who do you turn to?

I'm most often a loner when I'm feeling my worst. I will curl up in my recliner, maybe turn the TV on very soft to some interesting lecture and I will do all I can to focus on something beside what I'm feeling. Once in a while if I'm injured, like when I took a bad fall a while back, I immediately call hubby to help. Often there isn't much he can do but having him sit quietly with me is very soothing.

What about you??? What is your method?
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   Posted 8/31/2010 1:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Mine is to curl up on the couch and read. I've always used it for relaxing and now I have my Sony E-Reader
so I don't have to keep page turning. The book I'm doing now is nearly 1,000 pages. Since they took the tumor
out of my wrist, I think they hit a nerve as even the e-book starts to tremor if I hold it for a long time. It's only
been 2 months so I hope it heals more.

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   Posted 8/31/2010 3:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I sit in my green recliner, take a pill and call a friend. Sometimes just talking helps me. If hubby is home, then I talk to him. When the pain is really bad in the winter, I sit in our sauna and read the bible.
DX fibromyalgia 2007, OCD, depression, anxiety, sleep apnea, hysterectomy.
meds - fluoxetine (prozac), abilify, trazodone, lorazepam, nabumetone, hydrocodone, c-pap machine.
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   Posted 8/31/2010 5:34 AM (GMT -7)   
My current method is to grab my laptop and bed table and headphones put on my playlist and turn it up so loud my earlobes vibrate and focus on the music rather than the pain. After 2 or 3 songs I can get into a meditative state and 'exist' outside my pain. I had to start this new way after I went cold turkey off my meds at the end of June.

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   Posted 8/31/2010 5:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I try to find something to distract me such as concentrating on the kids or finding one of the cats and laying down with them. Listening to them purr calms me and places me in that frame of mind that gives me the control back. Music is always a good one also.

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   Posted 8/31/2010 6:04 AM (GMT -7)   
I am also a loner. I either lay on the couch with the TV turned down lower and hopefully fall asleep or I get in the hottub and just let the jets hit my shoulders.
Denise from Pittsburgh, Pa
 ***diagnosis: high blood pressure, gastritis, fibromyalgia, hepatitis (SVR/cleared),  disc problems in neck, depression, anxiety & stress, cervical headaches, porphyria-PCT, IBS
 ***meds: metroplol 25mg, zoloft 150mg, gabapentin 300mg 3x a day zocor , (soma, fioronal, tramadol, as needed).
 ***other supps: calcium, vit D 2,000-4,000 per, milk thistle, vit C &E, acidopholos (sp?),  
CO-Q 10,  flax or fish oil, ginsing, magnesium, B complex,

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   Posted 8/31/2010 6:27 AM (GMT -7)   
I guess for me I try to sleep through the pain. It doesnt always work and like most of you I will withdraw into myself. I also tend to be alot more cranky when in pain so most of my family has learned Im better off left alone.
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   Posted 8/31/2010 6:52 AM (GMT -7)   
I am like the most of you. I draw into myself too. I don't usually call anybody, but if somebody calls me, they usually get an earfull. lol...

I usually take my pain meds and wait for them to kick in. Then try to connect something to the pain. Figure out what I did to get this way.

I guess we all cope differntly and that is good, we can give eachother ideas.

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   Posted 8/31/2010 7:11 AM (GMT -7)   
If my pain is intense, I'll take a muscle relaxer. I go sit alone and start my deep
breathing and meditation. Once the cyclobenzaprine kicks in, I'll either just relax
listening to music, read or watch TV.

Hugs, Robin
Fibromyalgia, MCTD (Lupus, Scleroderma & RA) Raynaud's, Osteoporosis,
Osteoarthritis, Degenerative Disc Disease, Migraines, and Hypertension
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   Posted 8/31/2010 8:15 AM (GMT -7)   
I will ask the Lord to help me and then I find a diversion...usually genealogy or the forum.  I also will remind myself that these times do pass.  That gives me hope.
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   Posted 8/31/2010 8:26 AM (GMT -7)   
I also retreat into myself. I did that in labor, too - I never could understand how women screamed in labor! It took everything I had to concentrate on a spot on the ceiling and do my breathing.

Now I take a pain pill, try to relax all my muscles, turn on the tube and watch a good movie for distraction. Still try to breathe deeply and evenly.

...fibromyalgia, hearing loss, elevated liver enzymes, skin grafting (back), arthritis, scoliosis, lumbar disc damage, sciatica, IBS, migraines, tachycardia, cancer surgeries (face).......I take Nortriptyline & Clonopin daily, and Darvocet as needed

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   Posted 8/31/2010 9:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Great topic, Chutz. 
Basically I get in my recliner and read.  Reading relaxes me and the story distracts me from the pain somewhat.  I usually have my heating pad and sometimes my heated throw over me if the pain is causing me to be very chilled.  Depending on how much pain, I will do geneology on my computer to distract me and make me feel like I'm "accomplishing" something.  You know that old A-type personality thing kicking in. lol.
I'm usually more cranky  so I tend to hibernate alone and stay away from my sweetie so I don't inflict my nasty self upon him!

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   Posted 8/31/2010 10:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Generally, I think I tend to go to my bedroom and like to be to myself. One I have taken medication, I will try to sleep it away if at all possible. I will pray and ask GOD to relieve my pain. I try my best to think that as much pain as I am in, there is always someone else out there hurting much worse than me.

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   Posted 8/31/2010 11:14 PM (GMT -7)   
If the pain is really bad, I usually end up giving in to it. This results in my sleeping constantly for several days, which I hate doing. If the pain is moderate, I try to attend water exercise classes at the hospital, as the warm water in the pool really seems to help. If I am unable to go for some reason, I try to do stretches, or do something else to get myself moving. I usually turn to my husband or my friend who also has fibro when I am feeling really bad.
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