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   Posted 9/7/2010 5:02 PM (GMT -7)   
when you feel so down?  I am sore in some places and tight in other places.  I don't "hurt" persay but just achey.  I continue to have pain in my lower right side and my back.  I am so overweight neeeding to lose 100lbs and feeling overwhelmed.  I also am feeling down because I was supposed to hear about a job that I thought that I was going to get.  Just a little bummed. sad I am also very tired from not going to bed until late last night.  Maybe just a combo of a bunch of stuff but I just feel down in the dumps and need a good cry cry .  And then my hubby came home from work saying a coworker died over the weekend from choking from a marshmellow.  She was 39, the same age as me.  A senseless.  It brings you to reality.  Like I said, I need a good cry and reevaluate my life.  Prioritize what is imortant in your life.  Well, I am done and thank you for listening.
Take care and hugs,

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   Posted 9/7/2010 5:11 PM (GMT -7)   
((hugs)) Lisa, I have those days and I tell you it's frustrating, worrisome too because so much is going on in your body it's kinda scary. Plus kids, you love them but they have a tendancy to drain you too, not meaning too they just do.

When I get down, ok I'm a christian, so I turn the station to K-love, start praising God.

I also taken the outlook that, life is life, it keeps going and not to beat myself up.

I will keep you in prayers.
'Brokenness means we are ready for change. Lord, come take my pieces and make me what you want.' Mark Brown

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   Posted 9/7/2010 5:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Lisa, sending gentle hugs. I was in a funk over the weekend, frustrated, flaring
and overwhelmed. Today I'm still flaring but happy. I realize that somedays are
happy, somedays are sad but if I remember that everyday is a gift...a chance to
live that makes me glad. I try to focus on all the positives in my life and see how
truly blessed I am. There are so many people who suffer...I consider myself lucky.

Lisa, good cries are cleansing...a new beginning. You have the power to accomplish
your goals...remember that believing you can is always the first step!
Saying a prayer for you :)

Hugs, Robin
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   Posted 9/7/2010 5:46 PM (GMT -7)   
You hit the nail on the head, Liv!  You need a good cry.  No matter how positive you are, you will have your moments.  I know I do.  When that happens, I get in a hot shower and cry my eyes out.  Then when I get out, I feel like a weight has been lifted and if my eyes a red, my daughter will think I got soap in them!  smilewinkgrin    A good cry releases stress and you have a lot of that right now.
But, try not to look at the bad things in your life.  Try to look to a better future.  Nearly everything you mentioned is totally out of your control...except one thing.  You want to lose weight but you are overwhelmed.  Being overwhelmed won't help you lose weight.  Starting a food plan will.  Plan tomorrow to start eating smaller portions, more veggies, and stay away from the snacky things.  Just tomorrow.  Know what?  You will be very proud of yourself tomorrow night!  Then, decide to do the same thing the next day.  In a few days, I just bet you will have started losing the weight you want to lose!  Add some exercise and that helps even more.  Don't look at the long haul.  Look to one day.  You didn't gain it overnight so you won't lose it overnight but you WILL lose it and feel better and have a better outlook!  If you do this, let us know how you are doing! 
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God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7

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   Posted 9/7/2010 6:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you to everyone. I was alittle teary then let it out. I do feel better and my head is clearer,

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   Posted 9/7/2010 8:28 PM (GMT -7)   
(((Lisa))) Good! It's impossible not to get down sometimes, we're only human. Glad you're feeling a little better already.

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   Posted 9/7/2010 9:12 PM (GMT -7)   
I love how a good cry can be the catalyst for change. Sherrine, I had to laugh a bit at your "soap in the eyes" explanation...I've used that before a few times myself.

Liv, I know you must be thinking "How in the world am I going to lose 100 pounds - it's overwhelming". Yes, it is...extremely overwhelming. But, Sherrine suggested, you start small. Make one healthy choice for every meal you eat tomorrow. That's healthy choice per meal. Maybe that means an extra helping of veggies, instead of another piece of chicken. Maybe it means a salad for lunch and not a dinner sized meal. Maybe it means drinking a full glass of water before each meal.

Only you will be able to determine what choices will be right or wrong, but it really can be that simple. Eat a bit healthier, exercise a bit every day. As you start to feel better, start to expand your program - eat one whole meal per day that is healthy...etc. etc.

You've got great support here to cheer you on. It's baby steps for every one of us when we try something new, and it's not always easy, but it is doable! You can do it!!!

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   Posted 9/7/2010 9:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lisa, Im glad you were able to cry it out. No matter how positive we try to stay there are always going to be days where it all becomes so overwhelming. I am praying for you and hoping that you feel better soon.
Gentle Hugs
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   Posted 9/8/2010 8:45 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry that you are feeling this way today. I am so sick of the good days and the bad days. Some days I feel like, I would love to just crawl in a hole and never come out. Today is a good day for me. I feel bad to say that. I am in a positive mood and feel good today. On the bad days, I pray. And pray. I spent most of the weekend in bed. I just didn't feel like getting up. I hope that this day gets better for you, I will say a prayer for you. I have to stop and look around days and thank GOD , I am alive but as far as the pain and fatigue, I keep asking Why me? Why do others suffer with this? Why do we have to deal with all this pain? And the tired all the time? Feel better and my email is if you want to talk. I am still learning how this site works.
I took your email address out of the post.  It's far safer for you.  Anyone, anyplace can read the forum but only members can get in the profiles.  I checked and you do have your email in your profile so she can get it there.  Hope you understand!

Post Edited By Moderator (Sherrine) : 9/8/2010 10:40:22 AM (GMT-6)

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