Wow you have your hands full!! You need to do something quick or you'll be down and out completely and then you won't do anyone anygood!!
Coming to terms with fibro and relearning what you can and can't do and what you HAVE to do to survive is frustrating, hard, impossible, unfair, blah blah blah... Point is, you HAVE to make a change.
As for your sister and their financial trouble, can she get any kind of assisstance for the child care? Or is it because of the hours she works and that she HAS to work that she needs a family member to help out?? Where I live they have "daycare" available all hours of the night but there's NO way I could do that to my little girl. Put her in daycare to go to bed?? No thank you.
Why are you getting up with your husband?? I like to get up with mine but believe me, if I am in the need of extra rest, NO WAY do I get up. Also, I'm starting to learn that I have more energy in the evenings than I do all day long. So I find myself taking care of as many things the night before as I can so that in the morning when I am in an utter pain filled stuper, I have less to do. This includes getting the coffee pot ready, mugs out and spoon in, lunches packed, clothes ready, laundry folded, dishes done. I've even cooked things that I can just nuke for a few for breakfast. This is REALLY sad but when my daughter was in daycare, I've even dressed her in clothes at night that she could wear in the morning to daycare (usually if I had a REALLY early day), made a PB&J sandwich the night before which she ate in the car on the way to school, had the sippy cup ready in the fridge so she could grab it herself. I'd get her out of bed, change her diaper, run a comb through her hair, grabbed the PB&J, sippy, and out the door we'd go. I've gotten her out of bed and been out the door in 15 minutes
Right now I am getting ready to go back to work for the first time in over a year and I am SOOO scared. So, I am trying to do everything I can in my power to help me succeed. My daughter is going to a private school so I've eliminated the need to "decide" what to wear. I bought a weeks+ worth of clothes at the salvation army ($1.00/piece!!) for her so that I don't run out during the week while I have to go to work incase I don't have the energy to do laundry, I have a weeks worth of scrubs for myself ready to go. I bought a bunch of groceries that are EASY and quick to prepare in a pinch. I make 3 days worth of salad at a time so that I can keep eating healthy... blah blah blah.
Anyway, keep brainstorming in your "spare" time on how you can make things easier for yourself. I'm slowly learning that what is wrong with me is real, it's not my fault, I'm not going to be 100% like most other stay at home moms because I don't have 100% of my health. Some days I can give 110% and somedays I don't give into anything except my bed. I'll add you to my prayers.
Oh, and have a TERRIBLE time sleeping. I tried the sleepy time tea again and it helped this time. I tried it before and it didn't seem to do a thing. Maybe give it a try. I had that along with my ambien and soma. Yah, I take all that and still have trouble sleeping. Lucky me. Lucky us!
Fibromyalgia, migraines, arthritis, PCOS, IBS, anxiety, chronic insomnia; Lyrica, ambien, yaz, cymbalta, lidocaine patches, midrin if needed, (fish oil, D3, Co-Q10, multi) PS: I think fibromyalgia is a jerk!
Love, hope, and hugs,