Hi, Linda, and welcome! I'm so glad you found us and joined in! The pain is very real BUT depression and stress can make it worse. Also, not moving around will make it worse. If you are really staying in bed, depressed and crying, you definitely are not helping this situation.
You do need to get out of that bed and start moving. There are some good stretching exercises that are done sitting down in Fibro 101. Start doing these and also start walking. Just walk a little today and then a little more tomorrow and, before you know it, you will be walking a fairly good distance. I couldn't walk far either because of pain, feet hurting, and I did what I just suggested to you, and I now can walk my dog one mile a day plus all the other walking I do around the house and with shopping. It can be done but you have to be commited to do it.
I also lost 85 pounds by counting carbohydrates. I didn't eliminate them but I cut way back on them. Between that and the walking, the pounds came off.
I take ibuprofen with food (600 mg. every six hours), extra strength Tylenol(1,000 mg. every six hours between the ibuprofen), malic acid/magnesium supplements, and vitamin D3 for my pain and fatigue. Has your doctor checked your vitamin D levels? Many are deficient in that and it can cause pain. I also got a lot of relief from the malic acid/magnesium supplements. I put links in Fibro 101...the first thread on the forum...about these vitamins and supplements. It tells how these work in your body. I sure would give that a try. These aren't expensive either...especially if you get them at Puritan.com. It's the cheapest I have found these.
You could have a doctor that doesn't believe in fibromyalgia so you might want to find one that does. It doesn't sound like they are doing anything to help you at all. There are some doctors out there in the Dark Ages and you don't want to be going to one. Be sure to check out Fibro 101 because there is a link in there called Doctors Respond to New York Times Article. It's a real eye-opener. Also check out the link called What Else Could It Be. These illnesses should be ruled out before a diagnosis of fibro is given because these have many of the same symptoms as fibro. You also could have fibro AND another illness. That's why you need a really good doctor. Remember, 50% of the doctors graduated in the lower half of their class and yours could be one of them. I make sure my doctors are all board certified.
You can have a full and enjoyable life in spite of this illness. You do need to find what works to help control your pain. You most likely won't be pain-free but you can get the pain under control. Do keep yourself as active as possible and only go to bed when it's time to sleep. You are under the impression, I think, that if you stay in bed you won't hurt as much but you are actually making things worse for yourself! Pace yourself when you are up. Take breaks when doing things so you don't overdo. At first you probably will hurt more because you are asking muscles to move when they are used to doing nothing! But, it will get better if you just keep on helping yourself. Laying in bed and crying hasn't helped, has it. So you need to try a different approach and this approach has helped me have a good life with fibro for 24 years! I've been able to do things I never thought possible.
Find things you can focus on, too. I like to read, work on the computer, and do genealogy. When I'm engrossed in these, the pain fades in the background some. Also, I don't check out where I hurt. I know pain is a fact of my life and I have accepted this and now just keep moving and living my life and keeping the pain under control. You need to do that too.
You also need to make a list of all the good things, the blessings in your life. I know you have them because we all do. If you really think about it, you will find you have a much longer list of blessings than negative things in your life. Go outside and look around at the beauty that is all around you. That, in itself, is a blessing. The beauty and being able to see it is a blessing. There are plenty that are blind and have never seen the flowers bloom, the fantastic colors of flowers or the Bermuda blue skies. You can hear the birds chirping, the squirrels squawking, the rain falling, and perhaps having a nice visit with a neighbor. That is a gift, too. I know because I'm legally deaf and can't hear these things but I'm so thankful I can see them! Start remembering these and be thankful and I just bet a smile will come on your face and you won't have as heavy a load of depression!
I'm looking forward to getting to know you better. Don't hesitate to ask questions because we are here to help you. I hope to hear more from you soon.
God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7