The past few yrs have been hard for my family. My DM has been so sick and it looked like she might not make it and yet somehow she always came thru. The other day she was in such incredible pain, not even morphine could touch it. By the end of that night, she had slipped into a coma. She would 'speak' but nothing we could understand. Yesterday she spoke her last word. Just before I arrived, she called out 'ALICE' in such a pained voice.
I held her hand for hrs and sang an old song we liked. But she never spoke again nor did she squeeze my hand. But I still believe she knew I was there. I was going to go out to run an errand for her today, but my DH is sick and I didn't feel right leaving him, until one of our children came home to 'sit' w/ him.
I got the phone call that she has passed away and I had to leave my DH. I knew this day would come eventually, at least some part of me knew this would happen. But still the reality of seeing her and knowing she was gone was just so overwhelming. My DD left work to come over and be w/ me, my sister and her children were there and they were very loving. All the grands were so protective of the 2 daughters. They are such loves.
I made all the calls to family and friends, started the arrangements, will finish those tomorrow. Right now, I'm just shaking so badly. I am so glad she isn't in pain any longer, she never deserved that, she was a very good woman. I have my DH and 2 of my 3 children w/ me right now and I just feel so lost. I'm a grown woman, married almost 34 yrs, have 3 children and all my heart screams right now is 'I want my Mommy', like I was a little girl.
I'm going to take my shower and cry my heart out and prepare for the next cpl of days. I have to be strong for my children and my nieces and nephews and sisters. My DH is so upset, too, he and my DM were great pals. I will pray for strength. She was the first person I ever loved, my friend, My Buddy.
Good night, dear friends.
God bless. Alice.