I'm 30, but I've had Lyme since age 14, and my health has deteriorated gradually ever since the tick bite. At first I thought it was just me, but as symptoms got worse, I knew something was wrong, and that the doctors were just missing it. It took 15 years for them to test for and determine that I had Lyme. (After several car accidents, I also got the fibro/CFS diagnoses in my 20s).
I am a good looking young woman, who tends to attract guys fairly easily. In that time, I had several dates with different guys, and I had several serious relationships. One guy I datred in HS & also went college with was someone I really would have liked to spend my life with. But realistically, I knew I had to let him go, because I could not keep up with his adventurous spirit--he's big into the outdoors--hiking, sailing, etc. I enjoy those things, but I knew I would be unable to keep up with him.
I also have experienced more than one guy "dumping" me after they found out about my diet. For a while, I was eating all raw foods because my gut is so messed up, and that was the only way I could gain weight and feel halfway decent. Even though I was willing to make other food for them, they didn't want to deal with the inconvenience when going to restaurants and such.
I finally met someone who was willing to accept everything thing about me, but I knew in my heart that although he was my "soul mate," we were not to be together, because he was being called to the priesthood. He's likely going to be entering seminary in the fall.
It comes down to this: everyone has their own "baggage," so-to-speak. It just varies from person-to-person, exactly what that baggage is. You and your potential girl need to weigh each others' baggage and decide if you can live with it or not. If you're willing to accept and support each other as you are, and you both strive to bring the best out of each other, it'll work. You need to know your limitations, and as you gradually share more of who you are with the girls you date, you need to kindly articulate your needs. You will need more down time than the average person, and that's okay. I recommend reading The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron. Not because you're sensitive, but because your health situation requires you to step back from things at times. The book discusses this very relationship dynamic in great detail. Another great book on relationships is Matthew Kelly's The Seven Levels of Intimacy. If these titles get removed, just email me (in profile). These books have helped me.
Since I have Lyme which can be passed through the placenta, and with my health detriorating I'm not in a position to be a spouse or parent. Taking care of myself is a full-time job, and I still need to earn money somehow. I have watched friends, old flames, and my younger sibling marry and start families. As painful as it is for me, I've decided that in my case, it would be better to be single. The biggest problem has been the lonliness factor, but I am working on creating a living situation where I can have a sense of community with others who are in a similar health situation.
I hope this helps! I know it is painful.
I'm a music teacher, and not a doctor. Anything I post is based on my own experience and lay opinion.
Lyme, Babesiosis, Mycoplasma (Asthma), Fibromyalgia (Soft Tissue Injury), Costochondritis,
CFS (Mitochondrial Dysfunction), IBS (Candida & Leaky Gut), Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Adrenal Fatigue,
ITP (Low Platelets), TMJ, Plantar Fasciitis, Schamberg Purpura, Tinnitis, Allergies, MCS