For some years now, I've come to believe my oldest sib is a narcissist. Looking back at the years growing up, the pieces fit, as well. Now she has succeeded in turning my other sibs against me. I've seen a major change in their attitudes towards me, and definitely not for the better.
I'm one who thinks it should be possible to get along with just about anyone, while keeping conversation light, topics generic, no 'hot button' issues, etc.. But from some recent encounters, I'm seeing even this doesn't work; oldest sis has ruined my reputation and credibility. Even in e-mails, she attempts to 'shut me up' as fast as she can, while putting down anything I say. Her not-so-subtle message to me is 'I'm right, of course; your opinion doesn't matter.' I'm just shrugged off as someone who is pretty much invisible.
The last roundtable email, no one dared disagree with some wacky things she said--except me. I responded and tried to be friendly, but also firm and factual, as I knew what she had said was completely bogus. That's when the attacks came, and other sibs were too scared of her to defend me.
Anyone else dealt with this among your siblings? Any hope for improvement, or does it come down to 'Run, Forrest, Run!' from all the sibs? I have a pretty tough skin and have no problem living my own life, but must admit that I do feel cheated that I don't have a more positive relationship, at least with the other sibs.
However, I think they, too, have some issues and are insecure, and still pathetically look to 'big sis' as some kind of role model. I'm the youngest, so anything I say really doesn't matter to them.
In a sense this is a bit OT, but in another, maybe not. Since the last encounter, I can't get my neck and back muscles to "unknot." Grrr....
"Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love."
Post Edited (Luvzminis) : 3/7/2013 6:14:03 AM (GMT-7)