Posted 4/2/2013 4:55 PM (GMT -7)
No matter how long you have this condition, you can still deal with relationship fallout.
I had posted several years ago about my battle with the gentleman about how far I can walk,and how far I should be walking, or bike riding. After a nice conversation, we haven't had that conversatio again. Not that we might not in the future....
This new one is troubling. I was sick Saturday night, ate something that aggravated my Crohns, which made me vomit, which flared the fibro, which made it hard to sleep, etc. I had to get up at about 1am to try another pain med, since by that point I was fairly sure the previous one had come up. i didn't want to try a bath, because there is a tenant in the apartment under ours, and I hate to wake people up with water in the pipes in the middle of the night.
I came back to bed, but starting heaving, ran to the bathroom, and lost the next pain pill, too. When I got back to the bedroom, we ended up having a conversation about how I never seem to get better, and how frustrated he was about this.
Really? We are going to have this freaking discussion right at the moment? No, we really aren't. He said he knew he was being a jerk. Yes, you actually are right now, at this moment, being a jerk.
After about five minutes, I just got back into bed, and refused to say anymore. Really, what is there to say to this? Wow, really freaking sorry this is inconveniencing you? You want me to be normal? Yeah, you and ME both, buddy boy. He wants me to tell him when I feel bad.... Which, as we all know, is depressing as cat poo on crackers, since that litany never ever stops.
He was just expressing his frustration but that was the wrong time to
do it. He was concerned. I appreciate that.
Reminder, newbies, that health management and conditions, just like
relationships, are fluid entities. They change over time, and you need to check in and address the changing structure.
Just not after vomiting at 1 am.