I'm also on the large side (38DD) and just can't get away without some sort of support. Going without actually hurts even more than the pressure of the straps and bands. Before fibro, I used to wear underwire minimizers. I still wear them for rare special occasions, but very rarely.
For day-to-day wear I found a wonderful softcup with no wires, the Genie bra. It's not the most flattering look in the world, but provides enough support for comfort and no pain from the straps or bands. I can even step into it rather than pull over my head if my shoulders or arms are really bothering me.
Have a blessed day!
Conditions: Fibro, IBS, Sleep Apnea, Chronic Fatigue, TMJ, Eczema, multiple shoulder & knee surgeries, Endometriosis, Pre-diabetic
"Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." Phil 4:6-7
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