Posted 12/4/2014 10:39 AM (GMT -7)
Hi, Kyrodriquz, and welcome! When my children were that young, I hadn't developed fibro yet but I did have a horrendous case of Crohn's disease. With that you have abdominal pain, some arthritis, and a lot of diarrhea. I would have to use the bathroom about 25 times a day. That's really difficult with small children around but I had no choice. (My children were 4, 1 1/2, and an infant) All the diarrhea made me dehydrated and the loss of blood made me anemic and weak. I couldn't afford to hire help so I had to figure things out. (I was hit with fibro, too, nine years later. My kids were 13, 10 1/2, and 9 years old.)
We put up a swing set and a sand box and that helped. I could just sit and watch the kids. I could toss balls and they could chase after them, etc. and they would tire out! The yard was fenced, too, and that helped.
In the house, we bought a child's table with four chairs and I had that in the kitchen. It had coloring books and crayons, puzzles for the various ages, and also Playdough. When they got a little older, I added a paint box, too. They could entertain themselves this way. I also read to them and they enjoyed that, too.
We also bought toys that they could use and interact with one another. The various Fisher-Price villages had come out and and I think we had about five of them. LOL The kids loved them and could act out "life".
You don't have to be their primary source of entertainment. Just being there and loving them is what they really want. My children are all grown now but I had felt guilty for years because I couldn't do all I wanted to do with them when they were young. I couldn't even take them on a picnic because of my problem. I brought this up a couple of years ago, had tears in my eyes, and my kids were shocked! They said I was the best Mom of all of their friends! I was there when they needed me, I always had a nice family dinner for the family, etc. Even though I never talked to them about my health problems when they were young, they knew. Kids are smart.
Your two oldest can help some around the house too. We always gave our children chores because we felt a family works together. Your 4 year old can pick up toys and shoes, etc. and put them in the proper place and your six year old could dust. As the kids get older, they can help a little more. After all, you are helping them all of the time, too. A family that works together become quite close. It gives the kids a sense of responsibility, too, and it would help you!
Be sure to read Fibro 101..the first thread on the forum. There are links to good info about fibro and you will learn a lot there.
I'm looking forward to getting to know you better. Don't hesitate to ask questions because we are here to help you. Hope to hear more from you soon.
Fibromyalgia, Crohn's Disease, Ostomy, Autoimmune Inner Ear Disease, Diabetes, Osteoporosis, Glaucoma, Scoliosis, Ankylosing Spondylitis
God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7