OMG can I relate to your pain and state of mind!
People will tell you all kinds of ways to cope, drugs to take, etc. but I found in my quest that you truly have to grieve -- sounds weird but it is not. I had to go through the grieving process for my old life. It wasn't overnight but once I was through it I was able to live a much better life.
Eventually you come to acceptance. It can really happen.
How? Through some good books, yoga and meditation. Which keep you from dwelling on,thinking about
, and talking about
your pain. It's not helpful-- I know from experience. And the thing is-- no one can truly understand. And after a while they don't want to.
Simplify your life. Get rid of stuff and obligations that are weighing on you. Complication causes stress and stress causes pain.
It's ok to tell your close friends and family why you may have to cancel plans. Explain it once. My golf girls know if I cancel I don't feel good and it's ok. I don't have to explain it. Likewise for my family.
Do the gentle yoga first. Utube is great if you can't go to class. But class is even better. Yoga works on the mind,the body and the spirit. It has saved my life.
Meditation is something I always said poo on! But the way it calms your body and helps your mind detach from constantly thinking about
your pain is overwhelming. Utube again has guided meditations. Lay on the floor and listen.
Books-- another thing I said poo too years ago-- but a NP that I see at the pain clinic suggested a couple and I thought what could I have to lose? So what do you have to lose?
Full Catastrophe Living
Who Says You Can't -- You Do
Essential-- ( a book that has essays about
the important things in life)
I know that you are saying the same thing I said when people gave me this kind of advice! Haha what a nut! This stuff will never work!
I've been there and I get it. In 10 years I've been on every drug known to mankind for fibro. I've also been on large amounts of opioids and I've
Formally voiced my thoughts of just ending things to my husband. But I haven't felt that way in a long long time.
Ok-- I've said my piece. I encourage you to try one of these things on a consistent basis and think about
the things Sherrine said because they are great suggestions.
Let the grieving process move on and embrace a new life. Live with intention in whatever you do today. You have only so many breaths to take in this lifetime-- you can make them enjoyable.
Oh ya and heat is your friend!!! Big heating pads! Wrap up and relax!
Many good wishes.
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