Hi James: I think many of us can relate to what you're saying. I'm 60 and more aches and pains are creeping up on me, in addition to all the fibro "fun and games." Yes, it's difficult, for sure!
Personally, I find that I have to keep switching directions when it comes to things I used to be able to do but can't anymore. For example, I used to love riding bikes (that's bicycles; nothing motorized). But because of my right foot having much stiffness and neuro issues, I can no longer ride. I'm left with one of those inside little "peddlers" on the floor---not nearly as fun, but it does get my feet and legs moving a little.
But I guess my point is that I've found I have to keep making switches in life. Many of the hobbies I'm either doing or have been eyeing with interest are pretty sedentary. One thing though: Gardening gets me outside and moving, and enjoying fresh air and warmth--warmth as in "not so stiff" when I'm out there. Unfortunately, we're having a very late Spring, just had a major snowstorm, and the cool dampness has not yet invited me outside!
But I'm planting in small containers inside and practically counting the days until I can get out there. Once I'm there, I have to pace myself, but it's so, so fun and feels good to get that warmth (hubby and I would definitely move to a warmer climate if our adult children and grandchild didn't live here).
Many good points were made on this thread. One thing Debbie said really struck me: the problem is not a lack of things to occupy, but being out of agony long enough to accomplish some of them. Whoa, how true is that! I have several craft items, how-to books, etc. just waiting for me. Now I need to find the time to do them---when I'm not too tired or achy. But I think it's a step-by-stop process.
Diversions like crafting, I think, are good--they give us something to look forward to. There are a "gazillion" ideas for crafts and related online. Of course there are just as many other ideas on writing, or whatever else you might find interesting. Right now my current 'thing' is hand applique. I've not started any project, but just collecting some ideas for a start. That, in itself, is really fun and it inspires me..
When I go to outside fairs, flea markets, etc., it's not always easy to walk around. But I have to plan ahead and take out my most ideal walking shoes, check out the shortest walking route, rest if I have to, etc.. I often go with my husband to a big flea market every May. I walk as long as I'm comfortably able, maybe buy an item or two, and then rest (okay, I must confess we sometimes buy a small bag of mini donuts when we go there, too!)
I don't know your beliefs, but for me, my spiritual life helps a lot, with prayer time and spiritual reading. It sort of keeps me on an even keel, and I often find inspiration to help me in my day. I also attend a weekly Mass and can get there most of the time, unless I'm in a particularly bad flare that affects my feet/legs. The shared spirituality of being there is very nourishing for me.
Your local adult education classes might be a good thing to check out. Our town is fairly small, but there are still many options for classes.
I look at things now as to what I 'can' do, as Sherrine said (btw Sherrine, I love Joni Eareckson Tada's paintings and her singing, also! Renee Bondi is also paralyzed and in a wheel chair and I love her singing, too).
It seems life with fibro means constantly evolving and sometimes seeing and doing new things.
Wish you the very best and know that on this forum, we're pretty much (more or less) in the same 'boat.'
Sherrine: Your birthday party sounds so, so fun! Can we all come??
Pray, hope, and don't worry." St. Padre Pio
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