Hi and welcome to the fibro forum, Bardot! You have already read some great ideas here, and I have little to add, except a few things. (update: looks like a few more than I thought, LOL!).
I dislike taking meds and avoid them when I can. My doctor has given me permission to take my meds as needed---something one should absolutely discuss with their doctor to see if it's okay.
I take Neurontin (gabapentin) for nerve-related pain or issues (tingling, etc.) and I requested it in 100 mg capsules, rather than the 300 mg capsules I started with. To me, the less meds, the better, but if I'm having issues and need something, a small amount can help. I recently read some not-so-positive things about
taking Neurontin, but all in all, it's important both to research your meds and also discuss the pros and cons with your doctor to get the full picture. Bring up any concerns you have.
I also take Flexeril (cyclobenzaprine) as needed, and it helps stiffness but makes me extremely sleepy! I sometimes take only half a tablet or even slightly less, but it makes a difference.
I LOVE my heating pad and microwavable "bed buddies"--my favorite ways to cope with fibro pain. More for at-home use, though, of course.
Meds can cause dry mouth which can lead to cavities I learned! I use Wal-Mart's Dry Mouth Oral Rinse especially at night, and it seems to help. I also brush/floss frequently, and drink a lot of water.
Showering and hygiene can be difficult if you're not feeling well. I sometimes use a small basin and take a "bird bath" if my feet are bothering me. I then soak my feet later and wash my hair, leaning over the bathtub and filling a basin with water to rinse. But I do make sure I get one really "good" shower/bath at least once a week.
I've found stress can make pain worse, so I try to avoid it, if possible (not always easy in this world!). It's good to have pets, hobbies, watch funny movies, listen to relaxing or other favorite music, etc. and get some good 'down' time when possible. I work for a while, then sit and do something sitting down.
I don't work outside the home, but have the deepest admiration for those with fibro who do--how do they do that?? But everyone's situation is different and sometimes more demands are on people. Would it be possible for you to do some kind of work from home? Or could you talk to the 'powers that be'' at work about
getting some sort of help (sitting or whatever) when you need to? I'm sorry you are under stress there, and as Sherrine said, maybe it's time to look for other work.
Alternating sitting/standing work works well for me at home. Also, following a fairly regular but not rigid schedule. I write in a notebook what I hope to accomplish and cross off when I'm done. I also use sticky notes to remind me of things and even stick them on my purse sometimes or on the door as I'm going out. Can't miss them there!
Could your loss of appetite be from the stress you're feeling? Maybe it's something else you could talk over with your doctor.
It can be tricky to navigate friendships when you have fibro. I have some friends/relatives who generally understand and others who don't get it at all! (Incidentally, my sweet son and D-I-L even bought me gluten-free foods when we went to their place for Christmas dinner. Some people are awesome about
understanding, and maybe some just need to be told about
But all we can do is explain the situation. Have you checked into any fibro support groups in your area, or maybe your church has some kind of group you could join. It would be another place to meet people.
Well, I've said enough! One last thing: This forum is awesome! If you do a search on any fibro-related topic (search box at top of page), you'll find all kinds of helpful info.
I hope things improve soon. Please keep us posted, and best wishes!
Pray, hope, and don't worry." St. Padre Pio
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful, to make the most of what we have, to be happy with simple pleasures and have courage when things go wrong." Laura Ingalls Wilder