Trish, I'm sorry that your husband didn't know how to treat you well and appreciate you, but am so glad he is now OUT and that your new guy is good to you and for you. You deserve it!!
I think I posted about the hernia recurrence. This one is much larger than the previous. Since I leave for NYC a week from Mon., there was no time to have surgery and recover. So I will face that when I get back. Meanwhile, I got myself a good waist cincher with "stays" to hold myself in enough that I can wear decent clothes for my trip. It's tight and I feel like Scarlett O'Hara! It's not especially comfortable. I wore it for 5 hours today, while I went to get my hair cut, grocery shop, etc., and couldn't wait to get home and get the darned thing off!
Anyway, aside from the usual tiredness, I'm trying to find clothes, etc., for my trip. I've also planned out every day I will be there, and where I will eat, etc. I am meeting up with my oldest and dearest friend the day after I get there, and we are going to "do" Chinatown together. Hopefully, she will also stay overnight with me. She has unlimited calling and we have been having some 2 and 3 hour chats! LOL! Having fun catching up on news.
I may not have time to post again until after I get back. I have pre-op testing on the 22nd of this month, and f/u meeting with the surgeon on the 23rd, at which time I'll get the surgery date. I'm fairly certain it will be the last week of April or first week in May...but it depends on his schedule. If he is on transplant duty, my surgery may have to wait. I'll try to post the date when I know it.
Everyone take care of yourselves, especially the caregivers!