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Date Joined Mar 2008
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   Posted 3/11/2008 1:19 PM (GMT -7)   
My brother-in-law was diagnosed with Hep C and late stage 3 liver disease a few years ago.  He spent years as an active alcoholic, although he spent the most recent 3 years sober.  He had tried Rebetron, and it was unsuccessful for him.  It did not significantly lower the Hep C, deteriorated his heart, and lead to such great depression that he nearly committed suicide.  Treatment was discontinued.  Since then, he has taken a real depressing turn.  He discontinued all meds in early November, and started drinking 12-18 beers per day.  His jaundice began to return and he has lost almost all muscle tissue and had some belly protrusion.  That was the last time that anyone in the family saw him.  He called me on Sunday to find out how his young children are doing and told me that he doesn't want anyone to see him because he is in such bad shape.  I don't know if he is still drinknig, but he told me that his belly has gotten really bad and it hurts terribly.  He has been using heroin for the past few months to deal with the pain - he says it is the only thing that works.  He is not a transplant candidate - even before he relapsed because of his genotype of Hep C.  He doesn't want help and was just crying about missing his kids but not wanting them to see him as he is.  He refuses to seek medical attention and I don't know where he is, but he continues to call me crying in anguish about his kids and the fact that he is dying.  I have begged him to go for help, but he says that there is nothing to be done, so he may as well go.  His pain is awful, even with the heroin.  I don't know how long he may last or if I should try and have him traced down.  It just breaks my heart and I don't know if his suffering will continue for weeks, months or years.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated. 

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   Posted 3/11/2008 4:39 PM (GMT -7)   
sadinaz, I want to welcome you to the forum and tell you how sorryI am that your brother-in-law is in such bad shape. It is so heartbreaking isn't it? He has made a decision that I fear is not reversible (based on the information you shared in your post) His heroin addiction has increased his odds of an early death added to his continued drinking. His belly pain from ascites must be terribly painful for him. If he chose to he could at least get it drained (paracentesis) but it sounds like he doesn't want to. No matter what he chooses to do it is his right to do so even tho his family and loved ones disagree. I would encorage you to tell him how much he is loved and that his family will always love him no matter what. He is scared and obviously alone and needs to know that someone cares. Is it possible that he would allow you to meet him privately? I wish we all had a crystal ball that would tell us what to do and how to do it but even then I'm not sure how many of us would listen (including me). I will pray for him and all of your family. Keep hope alive no matter what-you just never know. I hope that he will agree to meet with you so you could reassure him of the love that you all feel for him. Keep posting even if it is just to vent your frustrations and fears. All the members here are such wonderful caring and well informed group of people you could ever find.

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Date Joined Aug 2006
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   Posted 3/12/2008 3:59 AM (GMT -7)   

I am so sorry about your btother in law and your family. Addiction and liver disease are both heartbreaking for families. I think the others are right about making sure you communicate to him how much his family loves him. Maybe you can encourage him to make some kind of contact with his children if even through a letter to let them know how much he cares and loves them. He is obviously reaching out to you and just listening and being there when he needs it maybe all you can do at now. My thougths and prayers will be with you and your family.


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   Posted 3/12/2008 6:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello Sadinaz and welcome to HealingWell, All gave you some great suggestions. Just wanted to say Hi and let you know how sorry I am for you having to deal with this.

Dan's brother. Sorry I had to edit your post. Just part of my job. you have given Sadinaz such good suggestions.

Take care......thoughts and prayers.
Pink Grandma
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When the going gets tough....the tough get going! Don't always know where I going but I get there anyways.

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