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Date Joined Mar 2008
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   Posted 5/5/2008 9:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello to you all again.  My dad's condition continues to worsen.  He had been diagnosed with cirrhosis about four years ago (he drank alcohol for about 40 years).  He now has fluid retention in his abdomen and sometimes his legs -- and he does take two diuretics.  He has had confusion and dizziness for a while.  He has wasted away to nearly nothing -- except for his swollen belly.  He is so cold all of the time; he shakes.  He now has nausea and says he feel "full" after only a few bites.  He is not interested in eating; before, he loved to eat and talked about it all of the time.  He cries all of the time and is scared.  He will not go to the doctor as he claims he is too scared.  He does not drink anymore, by the way.  My one brother does not live in the area and has not seen how "bad" my dad is.  Do you think that we need to schedule for he and his family to come visit as my dad may not have a lot of time?  It seems I never can get a "straight" answer on this.  I do understand that it is hard for anyone to say.  I just want to be sure that we all "do the right things."  I have no idea how long this type of progression can last.  I feel confused.  Thanks for any feedback.

Pink Grandma
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   Posted 5/5/2008 9:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello again Racu,

If it were me and at one point it was me. I would try to get your brother and family out for a visit now if at all possible. You never know when God's going to take him home.

I did the same the with my husband's daughter before he died. I tried for 2 years to get her to come visit her dad. She finally came about a month before he died and then came again 2 more times. My husband was so happy that his daughter came and so was she. So that made 3 of us happy.

If your brother waits too long.... he might be coming to your dad's funeral. How would your brother feel then?
I know I am sounding harsh and I don't mean to offend you. But your dad needs him now. Maybe he can talk your father into going to the doctor. Or maybe he just can be there for your dad's support.
It did wonders for my husband for his daughter to come. I actually believe it brought him some measure of peace and death wasn't so scary to him afterwards. It also brought me some measure of peace as well.

Take care.......thoughts and prayers..........
Pink Grandma
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Date Joined Mar 2008
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   Posted 5/6/2008 7:45 AM (GMT -7)   

To dansbrother and pinkgrandma:

Thank you both so much for your information.  It truly does help.  I commend your compassion and kindness.  I will try and get my brother here and to beg my Dad to go to the hospital.  He does get some social security; but, b/c of his gambling problem, my mom and dad have little to no money.  But, they do have insurance coverage through my mom's retired job -- great benefit.

Regards, RACU

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