I just read your post and it is very late, but I wanted to respond. I feel for you and your father and will keep positive thoughts for you both. No matter what the illness, this is a diffulcult time for you both. I cared for my father last year and now my husband and my mother is coming here tomorrow to live with us. I will be her caregiver also.
You can learn all you can, but it is what it is, and all we can do is take the very best care of them that we can. They know how much we love them just because we are there for them and we want to be. I learned this from my Dad. He had a bad stroke which caused multi-infarct dementia. It was hard for both of us, but he always called me his Christmas Angel until the very end. I was born in December. That's why my name is Carol.
My husband has HCV-Chirrosis-Liver Cancer. My mother is wasting from IBS and COPD.
I am 54 and have never had anything like all this going on in my life before. I myself am healthy. I suppose that's why I choose to care for them. I can't imagine being in their shoes. None of us can until we ourselves are there. IDK. I just keep on going on because I love them all so much. They are my family and I will always here for them.
Blessings to your Dad and you Siren79,