Well everyone this is my first posting here. Let me tell you why I am here. My sister is 41 years old and an alcoholic. She has cirrhosis. Let me start at the beginning. My family, like many others, is a mess. After our Dad died almost 14 years ago my sister did not communicate with the family. then one day about
2 years ago she contacted our mother trying to get back in touch. Our mother is messed up, but that's another story that I will talk about
later on. Anyway, we all began speaking to each other once again. I visited my sister and found she was drinking all the time...about
an 18 pack of beer a day...and smoking like crazy. This continued on and I had limited contact with her but we did communicate. Then in May, about
the ninth of the month I think, her daughter called us to say my sister was oin the hospital. Come to find out she was admitted because of acites and that is how I found out she had cirrhosis. She was told by a doctor that she had 3 months to live if she continued to drink and a year if she quit. It seems 70% of her liver was scar tissue/dead. when I visited my sister in the hospital she looked like she was going to die that moment and the nurse had the audacity to ask me if i was going to take her home! I told her no darn way. I mean she was barely conscious and could not hardly walk and they wanted to discharge her! Unbelievable! You see, my sister has no insurance and medicaid denied her so I guess they felt they should throw her on the street. Well, what did they do? they actually called the sheriff and had her removed from the hospital! They took her home and dumped her at the curb. She couldn't walk and fell down her steps trying to get in to the house. Her daughter showed up but she is a 19 year old brat who doesn't care about
her mom. Next thing I hear is my sister is being evicted from her home and she decides to go to live with her friend in Florida. I thought I couldn't take her in because I live in a tiny 3 bedroom home with my husband and 4 teenagers so I let her go. After about
a month or so and talking with my sister we decided she should come home with me. I rearranged rooms and moved things around and brought her home. After fighting with social services for medicaid and being denied and fightoin with social security disability and being denied we were at our wits end. My sister could not see a doctor , the local clinic said they were not equipped to take care of someone in her condition, emergency rooms can't do anything and she was just getting worse. All the time in more and more pain. We were beside ourselves fearing she is just going to stay in pain and get worse and just die that way. I mean social security disability tried to say she could work when she can't hardly stand or walk! Those people make me so angry! Anyway, we have contacted Hospice who is going to help my sister. They have gotten her medical records, have brought her needed medications and have done some counseling with her. They are amazing! A God send! My sister has also recently found out she is going to be a grandmother for the first time. this made her happy yet sad because she thinks she will not be alive when the baby comes. The people from Hospice have told her that she should make it her goal to stay alive until the baby comes. I have looked at the information Hospice brought and I guess my problem is that I am having a hard time dealing with all of this. I guess their involvement kind of confirms she will be gone soon and I don't know if I want to face that fact. How do I get through this? I and my family are the only ones she has? her 2 grown children don't care about
her, our mother & brohter are the same and her 9 year old son doesn't know how serious it is. I am in disbelief fo the whole situation. I can't grasp it! i don't know who to talk to. I have not met with Hospice yet myself since they come to the home when I am at work. Does anyone know if they will be able to help me with this? How do I find out how long she actually has? Do they, Hospice, have this information? How do I arrange for a funeral when I am barely making it week to week in this economy? I am so confused! Any one out there with suggestions? Ideas? Thanks!