I am back to work these days. My Sister-In-Law is staying with us to help take care of my husband Harvey. I don’t get a chance to check in on the forum except in the evenings.
I’m glad you are encouraged and getting involved. It’s important for the family to get behind the patient. Let the doctors know how important he is to you. This goes a very long way in their willingness to make him well again. Your brother must also demonstrate his will to live and give up alcohol.
A transplant candidate/recipient needs a great deal of support to ensure all doctors appointments are met, medications are taken appropriately, vitals are reported, etc. It’s a very involved process and one that has no end. Anti-rejection medication must be taken for the rest of the patient’s life. Rejection can happen years after transplant, so a patient must be vigilant for any signs of rejection and report them immediately to the transplant team. So the more family supporting your brother, the more confidence the team will have for a positive outcome.
Depending on the extent of his cirrhosis, they may be able to stabilize him enough to be released. He would then need to join an organization such as AA to get his sobriety documented. Of course he would also have to meet with the transplant team regularly to be evaluated and have his condition monitored. But let’s not get too far ahead of ourselves. Bottom line, he is going to need a great deal of support.
First and foremost, they must get his infection under control and address his kidney function. I don’t know that much about dialysis, but I do know that the kidneys can “wake up” again and start functioning depending on the extent of the damage. Get to know his nurses. Ask them for their opinions. They can help guide you in what questions to ask the doctors. There are some very intelligent nurses out there and they tend to be more direct that the doctors. And unlike the doctors, they are on board 12 hours a day. The nurses can be your greatest ally.
I have to get ready for work. I wish you the best of luck and will continue to pray for your and your family.