Hello, Ringzemall, and welcome to the forum. I'm very sorry to hear that your b.f. has liver disease, and especially sorry to hear that he continues to drink alcohol. Joan is right--fights won't help or make him stop. He has to truly want to quit. Perhaps you can approach the subject in a calm and objective manner. Tell him that everytime he takes a drink (even a beer), he is throwing alcohol on a fire. His disease will progress much more quickly and his death will be hastened if he continues to drink. Offer to go to an AA meeting with him. He may secretly want to quit, but just doesn't know how. I have been sober for 22 1/2 years, thanks to AA. Thankfully, I had been sober 6 yrs. when diagnosed in '93 with hep C. I have cirrhosis and have had liver cancer and am still here to talk about it. I know I wouldn't be if I had continued drinking.
If your b.f. won't accompany you to an AA meeting, you might find that Al-Anon meetings will help you to take care of yourself and evaluate the relationship.
The alcohol will blunt his appetite, so he won't feel hungry. Give him some Ensure or Slim Fast if you can get him to take it. Otherwise, cheese, fruit, eggs...basically anything with nutrition that he can get down.
As for the medical care issue, has your b.f. applied for SS Disability? If he is not qualified for Medicaid, perhaps your local hospital has charity coverage. Teaching hospitals usually have clinics that are cost-free or low-cost if one qualifies financially. Even Mayo has a charity fund. I am under Mayo's care, and anything that Medicare won't pay, their charity fund does, so I have never gotten a bill. That's a tremendous relief from stress. If your b.f. is approved for SSD, he will receive Medicare two years from the time he applied for it. Since he is taking Lactulose, that tells me his liver disease is quite advanced.
Talk these things over with him in a calm manner, when he is sober. Don't ever try to discuss things with him when he has been drinking as he will not be receptive. Most importantly, be sure to take care of yourself.
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Post Edited (hep93) : 3/12/2009 12:24:54 PM (GMT-6)