FTLOM, I am sooo sorry for your loss. However, I implore you not to second-guess yourself as to getting Hospice involved. It's doubtful that he would have lived longer with or without hospice involvement. Even with Lactolose, he likely would have reached a point where it was not working and would've gone into a coma anyway. That is usually what happens with ESLD. In order for Hospice to take over, the doctor has to state that the patient is not expected to live longer than 6 mos. Hospice will not accept anyone who is still receiving treatment. They give palliative treatment only; i.e., pain meds or other things to make the patient more comfortable. They are usually a great help to the family and the patient. Just as with any organization, there are bad apples I'm sure. You could have gotten involved with some person or a particular hospice that wasn't as sensitive as they should have been. But know that you did what you thought was the best for him.
I know you must miss your husband terribly. How long was it from diagnosis to his death? I get the feeling that it wasn't a long time, or that he suddenly took a turn for the worse and was gone.
Please don't beat up on yourself. Your husband is at peace now and would want you to come to terms with his illness and death. The people here who have gone through losing a loved one will support you. It's a little slow on the weekend, but believe me they will respond.
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