Thank you all! It has just been one hill after another.
My mother in law to date is still being sustained by life support. This is against what she wanted. She has an advanced directive that clearly states that she did not want to be sustained by life support. However my brother in law, the one that moved in with us in June is her Power of Attorney. He has strong armed everyone and everything his whole life and he is drawing this out. He's demanded multiple times that second and third opinions come from outside the hospital. That I can understanc how ever I cannot understand that he's not making her a DNR at this point, she has crashed twice now and he keeps telling them to bring her back.
Yesterday he and my husband got into an argument at the hospital over a phone call. The hospital called us at home to let us know that the doctor would like to sit down with the family to discuss the current status of my MIL. He (my BIL) told my husband that if he wanted to take control of everything that he'd sign everything over to him... and that this was our (my and my husbands) fault that she was here in the first place. Because of what happened in March of this year.
In March, I had to have a D&C, because of a failed pregnancy, and that day when we arrived home, we found my MIL in the bathroom unresponsive, and cold. We called 911, and I began CPR, she was in ICU for two weeks. If I had not had to have the surgery that day, we would have both been at work and wouldnt' have arrived home until after 6PM and she would have surely been dead. She was close to it when we arrived at noon.
We know that this was not our fault, we also know that this is probably his own guilt coming thruogh as he didnt' spend as much time with her as he would have liked, due to living his own life.
The bottom line is that we never placed the bottle in her hand, we told her so many times that she needed to get help, but she didn't want it. It took her getting very sick to realize she needed the help and she did go to alcohol prevention therapy, as it was made mandatory for her to go by the liver transplant team.
Long story short, I think that Monday will be the day that she is removed from the life support. I hope it ends soon so we can all greive and begin the healing process for ourself.
Thank you all for the thinking of me... it's very difficult for us, That is an enormous understatement.
But we do appreciate your support.