Allie, I agree with WG. Since he is not her husband and you are her daughter, I suggest you see an attorney about getting Power of Attorney and Health Care Surrogacy. The Surrogacy would put you in the position to make medical decisions for her. You could also have access to all her medical records, get info from doctors, etc.
Any invasive procedure carries risks. If there is a chronic health problem, it increases the risk. However, I've had 5 hip surgeries (bilateral replacements and 3 revisions) since being diagnosed with hep C. One of the revisions I had was with cancer. Your mom will not be able to walk without horrendous pain if she has an unrepaired broken hip, and her risk of falling also increases...even if she hasn't been drinking. So for these reasons, the hip repair is necessary. Otherwise, she will be in pain and wheelchair bound. Depending on the severity of the break, they may be replacing the femoral head. Just make sure she has a really good orthopedic surgeon. Ask what they will do for post-op pain relief. It is a very painful surgery, but Mayo has new techniques for pain management that made the 2 revisions I had there much less painful than surgeries I had at Shands. She should go to an inpatient rehab facility when the hospital is ready to discharge her. They can make those arrangements. She will need to learn to walk again and to regain strength and flexibility. I'm still doing my PT exercises at home 4-5 x a week, 3 1/2 mos. after my last hip surgery.
If you have any questions, you can e-mail me. I do have a lot of knowledge of hip surgery, having been through it so many times.
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