Donna, some people go into a coma before they pass away. Speak to Hospice about it. They deal with illness and death on a daily basis and are very good at pinpointing when someone is close to death. It doesn't sound like your dad is there yet if he is still able to carry on a lucid conversation at times.
Post Edited (hep93) : 1/20/2010 10:06:46 AM (GMT-7)
In Co-Dependency meetings, I learned to "detach with love." This is a way of separating yourself and letting go of what you cannot "fix." It keeps you from getting caught up in obsessive behavior, but it takes practice.
Post Edited (hep93) : 1/20/2010 7:57:44 PM (GMT-7)
Donna, if you call AA, they will be able to tell you where there is a Codpendents meeting and the days and times. You could also look into Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings. They are really great, too. In addition, Melody Beattie has terriific books that the Codependency meetings are based on: Codependent No More; Codependent No More and Getting Better All The Time; The Language of Letting Go and More Language of Letting Go. You can get those on Amazon or at half.com.