Mer, well, yes...you do have it "all figured out." You're sober. Now he needs to, as you said, get honest...and he will then understand, too.
Unless he's court-ordered to detox or rehab, then you can't force him. Since he's not shown any indication of wanting to quit drinking, then your only recourse is to take care of yourself and your child.
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