SW, I'm very sorry. Many alcoholics can stop drinking. Staying stopped is a different story. That's why 90 days is recommended. But unless they have a detox program, he's not going to just be able to go into rehab. And he's certainly not going to quit by himself, at home. Not without a tranquilizer, which must be monitored, and a strong will to live and stay sober. Sure, you'll miss him if he's gone for 90 days, and usually there's no contact allowed for the first 30. But this is about
him, not you. The reason for the isolation with other recovering people is to keep the focus on the work and not on outside relationships and concerns. It's about
learning to live sober, and building a good foundation in sobriety. Which, if successful, will bring you many HAPPY days together...if it's not too late. From what you've described, I think he needs to make a decision NOW. It's obvious that he is getting worse each passing day.
I drank alcoholically for 22 years. My life was a mess and for a long time I didn't "get" that the problem was my drinking. Finally, I realized that perhaps I had a problem with alcohol and went to AA to find out. I felt like I had "come home." I virtually heard my own story at Speaker Meetings. These were my people. And I learned how to stay sober one day at a time and to create a new life. I also was very motivated. Now I have many more sober days than I had drunk ones.
Emma, your guy is still in alcohol counseling, right? The group counseling?
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