Hi, welcome back.
You have your hands full.
I don't know where in TX she would be going to, but in NO, we have had a member get a transplant a place they liked, at Tulane I think. Maybe she will post in.
I found this on the Internet: http://liversociety.org/html/liver_transplant_hosptials.html
Maybe that will help.
My partner had to get sober before he could get listed. Many places won't even do the work up until you are 6 months sober. Mike went to AA 4-6 times a week...you go as often as you used to drink, or that is what is recommended. He had an ethanol blood draw once a week. He coudln't even use mouthwash or cough meds with alcohol in them. They swabbed his arm with betedine not alcohol before the blood draw to keep the test pure. You have to get a sponsor to sign a calendar or diary page that you attended each time. We kept the lab results to provide documentation also.
When they do the workup for transplant, you have to see a psychiatrist one or more times to discuss your sobriety and other things. The psychiatrist has to write a letter that you are a good canidate for transplant, that it is unlikely you will relapse, that you are committed and emotionally stable enough for the rigors of transplantation and the rigorous post transplant protocol...meds, labs, appointments, etc.
If you don't pass the psych eval, you don't ge on the list.
The problem with your scenario is that it seems like you are willing to do all the work. She arrives on your doorstep, or you bring her, and then you are responsible for her sobriety. You are in a tough spot...being firm and not buying her booze is perfect, but all this energy to find her a program and keep her away from TX means that you want this more than she does.
Mike's doc told him firmly, when his MELD was about 24, that he would die in 3 months if he continued to drink! Not drink a lot or drink every day...he meant AT ALL.
This sister of yours needs to know that when you liver is shot, you die. If she continues to destroy her liver, she will die too. Alcohol destroys your liver. She has a choice to make. SHE has a choice to make.
Dying of liver disease is not pleasant. She is feeling the effects right now!
You are a good sister. I hope she makes a good choice.
You might want to take in some Al Anon meetings for yourself. This is not your battle. This is her battle. They will help you separate those two.