I do know that I have come a long way since last year. I had my first "Good Anniversary".
Every year for the past several years, a few of us "girls" have gone to Countryfest. Mostly the same few people and we make a weekend of it. Last year I was only a couple of months out, not actually planning to go at all, but it happened to work out so that I could and so I did. There were only 4 of us, but each of the other 3 women had been very close to me through Craigs's illness and the only ones he would allow to help me care for him, especially toward the end, and it was perfect that it was just us. I smiled and laughed and cried that weekend and was just so thankful to have such great friends, who loved me and my husband, and continue to "get it".
So last weekend, we did it again, and it was a sunny music filled day and evening and some great fellowship.
With regards to the book you mentioned, please do not take this the wrong way, but it sounds like a book about healing from a divorce. While I realize that there certainly are some similarities, the last thing I am ever going to read right now is a book about divorce. It is one of those "hot button" topics with us widows of happy marriages. I am sure there are things that might be helpful, but we just have a problem with the comparison. Maybe I will be more open minded later on, but right now, when someone tells me "I know how you feel because my husband left me" it triggers some pretty intense feelings of "you don't get it.... he didn't leave me by choice. And he is not enjoying life across town with someone else. He is GONE. Neither of us wanted this."
That being said, there are some pretty wonderful books out there about healing from grief, and I do read them from time to time. Mostly I have found that this is my own journey, and it is something I will get through in my own way, in my own time. It helps to hear about others experiences, and it normalizes our feelings, but the bottom line is that I will never be the same person I was before. I just have to learn to live with the person I have become.