Posted 9/23/2014 5:26 PM (GMT -6)
I am seriously considering attempting to find a living donor. The statistics at Columbia Presbyterian in NYC are good. They say they have done 220 living donor transplants since the inception of their program, though I do not know how many of those were parent to child.
Obviously, the wait time is not an issue - Scheduling and my MELD score would dictate the date of transplant.
And the wait time for cadaveric donors in NYC is absurd.
(Frankly, and I am just musing aloud here, if I did go for a cadaveric donor, I think I would seriously have to consider going outside of NYC where the wait times are more reasonable)
In any event, I am interested in knowing how one goes about asking people such a delicate question. There must be some sort of best practice. Each of the members of my immediate family are not eligible, for various reasons, except for one blood relative, one in-law and my son, who is nineteen.
After that, I would be talking to cousins and second cousins, as well as good friends. My good friends know how sick I am, but frankly, my extended family is not close. OTOH, we love when we all get together, and I feel there is a strong kinship bond, but in day to day living, we are not close. The thing is that I know I would give a piece of my liver, or a kidney, to virtually anyone who was desperate for one. To me, it is a non-issue - to give of myself to save another person.
In fact, my dear paramour gave a kidney to his last girlfriend. Then they broke up. She was a jerk, but he feels no regrets, as he saved her life and I agree he should feel very good about his sacrifice to save another person.
Does anyone here have any information they could share with me regarding finding a donor?
I know that this is just one of about a scajillion different issues regarding a living donor situation, but for now, this is what is bothering me, and I cannot find an online source for the nitty gritty of this amazing possibility.
Thank you all for your help, and feel well.
fyi, I still feel crappy from the nasty bacterial infection that landed me in the hospital for 11 days. I've been out six days and recovery is slow.